My father and me.
Despite this happy little picture, my father would never have won a Father of the Year contest. I remember what a challenge finding the right card was at Father’s Day, because none of the mushy sentiments fit. I didn’t think my father was a great dad and back in the day, there weren’t less sentimental cards. You know, the ones that said, “Happy Father’s Day, Dad!” and nothing else. Or “blank inside” cards.
I know that many daughters out there didn’t have the best relationship with their father, because I’ve read their blog posts over the past week. If you had a troubled relationship with your father when he was alive (or even now), this blog post is for you.
I know that the spirits want to give us an opportunity to become free from hurt, anger and hatred rather than remain hostage to it. When a spirit apologizes, it isn’t only to ask for forgiveness for himself, but to offer freedom and peace to the person he has hurt.
In my experience, spirits often talk about how death has allowed them to see things differently. When an unloving father passes, he is able to finally experience the full impact of his actions on the lives of those in his family. No one can avoid his own failings forever. ~Medium Hollister Rand’s June newsletter
Hang on to your chapeaus, because last year, much to my surprise, this happened to me. My father spoke with me through a (different) medium and apologized for the way he fathered. He explained in detail how sorry he was and how he hadn’t realized what he’d done until he had crossed over. We both cried. We discussed it. (Yes, this requires you to suspend disbelief, because in my world, I can and do speak to loved ones who have crossed over.)
Since then, my father has spoken to me several more times. Including admonishing me to clean the garage. (Yes, he is right. I need to do that.) We have a great relationship: the one I always wished I could have with him.
So here’s what I discovered: it might come late, but it’s never too late to have the father-daughter relationship you always wanted.
With that in mind, I wish my own father a very happy Father’s Day, thank him for taking time out of his busy afterlife to make things right and tell him I’m looking forward to seeing him again.
But not any time soon.
Postscript: Mediums John Edward and Hollister Rand have both brought messages from my father, but this particular message was channeled by the excellent medium, Jamie Butler, in a telephone session. HERE is Jamie’s website. She also has great web classes that I highly recommend.