Actions are terra firma

February 22, 2013
What you do speaks so loudly
that I can not hear*

Oh yeah.

It’s so tempting to listen to the words
and ignore actions that seem contrary.

That would be a mistake, though.

What people do tells you everything important you need to know about them.

Words moderate and provide color.

But what folks do?  That’s the data that we should base our decisions on.

It’s our terra firma.

Actions always do speak louder than words.

Even though we hate that they do.

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4 comments on “Actions are terra firma
  1. R says:

    “Actions always do speak louder than words.”


    I have found that denial of this is usually by those who cannot be honest about their thoughts or feelings with others, ala people pleasers. People who seem to think their ‘dishonesty’ is a lesser evil/hurt, or they don’t wish others to think badly of them.

    If you think about it, it’s also a form of gaslighting. E.g. someone notices another’s actions do not match their words and tries to raise it, and the reply is “oh no, it’s not like that at all”. Crazy making.

  2. Grace Hodgin says:

    I have to say I do watch how a person lives their life rather than just listening to them and accepting it as fact.

  3. Ellen Dolgen says:

    Yes! Action speaks volumes.

  4. I’ve spent my entire life observing people…actions always speak louder than words because you finally know who people really are.


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