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Once I take hold of your hand, I never let go – even if you let go.
– Maharajji… shared at a Ram Dass retreat last year.
It’s all about being love.
Such a beautiful thought and especially timely with the recent publication of my essay in the anthology, Dumped: Women Unfriending Women
as well as with the comment my dear soul sister made to me last month:
“You and me? We’re friends for life.”
That’s such a huge statement and it requires a gigantic leap of faith.
Do we have the capacity, the capability to take such a leap with everyone in our lives?
Ram Dass thinks so. He recommends love as the antidote to just about anything that could ail us. That soul-to-soul love that recognizes that we are all made of the same Divine matter. When we relate on a soul level, it’s easy to love.
That’s why I call her my soul sister, sister of my soul. Because we see beyond the relational aspect of love. It is a miracle, really, that we found each other. Because we had been acquainted for quite a long time without knowing each other.Without knowing the big thing we had in common was we both wanted to be love.
In fact, Ram Dass points out that the important thing in love is not the giving or the receiving. It’s the being.
Seeing the love all around us. Seeing the love in people. All people. Even people who would be hard to love. Ram Dass shows us what a joy it is to turn someone we didn’t like at first into a beloved. They don’t have to know it or even return love. In this case, it really is all about us.
Do I have a relationship with her? we might respond about someone we know. No. But I love her. She is my beloved.
Sometimes we have to go pretty far to find that ability to love someone we don’t like. Here’s what Ram Dass says about it:
“The way I work at seeing others (like the politician I don’t like) as the beloved is to remind myself, “This is another soul, just like me, who has taken a complicated incarnation, just as I have. I don’t want to be in this incarnation any more than he wants to be in mine. But since I want to rest in my soul and not in my ego, I would like to give everybody the opportunity to do the same.”
We are not accustomed to thinking this way. Yet, it makes complete sense to me.
We worry so much about what others think, when really, we need only work on ourselves. Being love is a worthy goal.
I’ll let RD have the final words:
“Remember, we are all affecting the world every moment, whether we mean to or not. Our actions and states of mind matter, because we are so deeply interconnected with one another. Working on our own consciousness is the most important thing that we are doing at any moment, and being love is a supreme creative act.”