Screen shot from designer Chasity Sereal’s vision board as shown on Project Runway on 2/4/22.
Black sheep syndrome. It’s that feeling that you don’t belong. That you are different. That one of these people in your group is not like the others and it’s YOU.
If you were a sheep you’d be black, but if you’re a person, you are usually the one whose thoughts, values and actions differ from those around you. They’re different than the norm in your family or your peer group. You don’t “fit in.”
When we’re younger and still finding our way, not fitting in is a big deal. But as we grow and learn more about ourselves, and, especially, learn to accept ourselves, it’s not as hard.
Still, it takes courage to step out of your community’s norm.
The number of people I know who identify as the black sheep of their family is larger than I thought. But, it makes sense. Like attracts like.
Fashion designer Chasity’s collection on Project Runway last winter was about the black sheep that trusted her internal compass and as a result, blossomed. That blossoming that comes from being different? It’s something young women aren’t always convinced of. Because it’s hard to be on the outside. I get it.
But being an older woman now, I can say without a doubt that being a black sheep will give your life a rich texture–one it might otherwise lack. Very rich. You’ll build resilience that others might not have a chance to develop.
And I can also say with confidence that the courage to live life by your own rules will always come in handy.
So here’s to my fellow black sheep…rock on!
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