Bound-up hearts

May 18, 2013
In a conversation the other day, I was taken aback
 to hear a friend speak of another friend
with judgment and condemnation.
I saw the situation differently.
I could imagine the pain our mutual friend
was experiencing.
The fear.It all seemed so clear to me.But it wasn’t to my friend.


Our default as a society seems to be
to rush to judgment
To condemn.
To find what’s lacking
instead of to seek understanding.
Our hearts seem bound up,
that’s what I think.
But here’s the thing:
we don’t need to dig very far for insight
and understanding.
What really goes on with people is often
just below the surface.
Not very deeply buried at all.
What a kinder world it would be
if we sought to understand
rather than to judge.
I’m reminded of the prayer
of St. Francis of Assisi,
which in part, reads:
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned.
One comment on “Bound-up hearts
  1. Laura Kennedy says:

    I can only respond: Yes, and Yes, and Yes.

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