How holding space is more supportive than blind loyalty

July 27, 2021
In all the years I've lived in California--some 36 years--I can't remember anyone bringing up the subject of loyalty. But since I've been spending time in my hometown,...

Now that I’m 70 there’s more time behind than a

July 23, 2021
I'm 70 today. How did I get here? I don't feel a day over 50, honest. I'm still a little girly. With a veneer of maturity. Ok. Maybe more than a veneer. But 70...

Why you should run fast as you can from someone who withhol

July 19, 2021
If you approach others with an open heart, you may not be familiar with the concept of withholding.  It's a pretty diabolical relationship dynamic and a big red flag...

All the week’s buzz from Boomer bloggers

July 18, 2021
Typewriters would be clacking back in our old days, as my favorite Boomer bloggers express their thoughts this week. But today it's the almost silent click of...

The truth about Invisaligns

July 14, 2021
When Dr. Fang, as I affectionally call him, suggested Invisaligns after noticing that my teeth were shifting as I aged, I rejected the idea. Especially after he told me...

How do we find home? What makes a Californian?

July 13, 2021
This question is current for me, as I start to look ahead, further out than I've ever looked. Looking through a telescope at the far horizon seems to be a function of...

Whose music are you dancing to?

July 6, 2021
  This is, in fact, the life experience of many creative souls, from Van Gogh and Hemingway to writers I know and yes, even me. Even me. Not everyone...

Why you’re never too old

June 15, 2021
I'll be 70 this summer.  70! I can't wrap my head around it. Still, it doesn't seem as old as I expected, because it's never occurred to me to approach life with...

When that one little thing pushes us over the edge

June 10, 2021
The first thing I saw this morning was a blast email from the obit site,, reminding me of the death of someone I had known. The reminder was meant to sell...

Something’s going on–and it’s not good

June 4, 2021
Women around me are falling apart. Have you noticed far more anxiety and neurosis around you? I don’t suffer it, myself, but I see it everywhere. Women I know are...

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