If you’d like to know how unconscious racism works:

May 20, 2022
Unconscious racism. I saw a perfect example in a FB friend's post: "I'm sad that women in this country are regarded as below even a black man." Whoa! Below EVEN a...

Mourning what was, what wasn’t and wondering what wil

May 3, 2022
When we think about grief, it's usually in the context of someone close to us dying. Or leaving our lives in some way. But that is not the only way we mourn. It's...

Can you remember back when life was normal?

April 27, 2022
If life were normal we would have taken a bunch of exotic trips in 2020 and 2021. We would've seen the fjords in Norway, enjoyed the Hebrides and Shetland, probably...

Why tiptoeing around triggers is not the solution to trauma...

February 28, 2022
"It is nobody's responsibility to dance around the triggers to your traumas. It is up to you to deal with past traumas healthily and learn to cope with them in a way...

Should we stop being judgmental?

February 24, 2022
"I'm a really judgmental person," someone said to me the other day, and it struck me as a truly honest statement. Very few of us cop to being judgmental, but every...

In praise of millennials

February 10, 2022
Full disclosure: I taught college for many years and I love working with young people. Full knowledge: I know "OK, Boomer!" is a millennial term used to disparage...

How I rid myself of social media anxiety

January 11, 2022
"...we still need to discuss this. We live in this world together.... ...so what is this conversation really about?" ~Wagechi Mutu in an interview. This one is...

If cosmetic surgery helps you feel better about yourself

January 4, 2022
...then you might want to take another look at your values. I know: that's BLASPHEMY. It's the defense of cosmetic surgery I hear most: "There's nothing wrong...

And just like that, we’re old

December 30, 2021
**. SPOILER WARNING. ** You know how we always suspected gyms secretly counted on on us buying  memberships we never used? I'd forgotten that I had Disney+. So...

It’s not about Halloween candy. It’s about valu

December 14, 2021
Have you ever left Halloween candy out for kids to self-serve because you wouldn't be home? (Or, during this pandemic, because you didn't want to open the door?) I...

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