If it makes you feel better about yourself,
I see nothing wrong with it.
We hear this all the time as justification for all the plastic surgery going on today.
Breast enlargement.
Butt enhancement. Reshaping of major facial features.
Bigger eyes. New nose. Cheek implants. Botox. And more.
Here’s what bothers me: if a woman’s self esteem pivots on
having a big ass,
what does that say about her?
We’re an increasingly superficial society.
The things that make many of us feel better about ourselves are
all about how we look.
Oh, sure. I’m relatively wrinkle-free, even at my age.
And unlikely to go under the knife electively.
Still, I do have a particular line on my face I wish weren’t there.
And a bunch of pounds that need to go.
Nonetheless, and thankfully, my self-esteem isn’t completely bound up in any of that.
I know someone who had eight hours of plastic surgery. A smart, accomplished, attractive woman with a husband who loved her.
When she emerged,
she barely resembled herself.
Cheek and chin implants are popular among celebs;
it makes them all look alike, and kind of strange.
She got those, and
looked just as strange.
Her eyes changed. A facelift. She had liposuction all over her body, although
she was an athlete. That changed the shape of her body, with
fat showing up in her arms instead.
I thought it was all kind of silly.
On the other hand, I know someone who had a breast
reduction. Her Double G breasts created serious back
strain and the kind of male attention a woman really doesn’t want.
She’s now a large B and much more comfortable.
That kind of cosmetic surgery makes sense to me.
Just because you CAN change your entire appearance
though, doesn’t mean it’s a good idea.
If it’s a self-esteem issue, I’d encourage a woman to
do something more worthwhile instead. Do something you’ve always wanted to do.
Pursue self-improvement in things that matter.
Go to college.
Read the classics. Learn a new skill.
Pursue a different career.
Turn a beloved hobby into a money-making opportunity.
Take a risk. Take a chance.
ACHIEVE something.
Tying appearance to self-esteem is unhealthy,
in my opinion. Ask anyone who loves an anorexic.
How do you feel about it?
(Feel free to disagree.)
This is a no brainer Carol! I totally agree with you but try to tell that to a woman who feels she needs this done.
Try telling an anorexic to eat.
Try telling a bulimic to stop throwing up that she looks fine just the way that she is.
Try telling a girl to quit taking laxatives to get thin.
Women increasingly are having serious mental issues related to how they see their own bodies. This is known as BDD. Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD)is sometimes referred to as body dysmorphia or dysmorphic syndrome. This is a (psychological) somatoform disorder in which the affected person is excessively concerned about and preoccupied by a perceived defect in his or her physical features (body image).
The sufferer may complain of several specific features or a single feature, or a vague feature or general appearance, causing psychological distress that impairs occupational and/or social functioning, sometimes to the point of severe depression and anxiety, development of other anxiety disorders, social withdrawal or complete social isolation, and more. It is estimated that 1–2% of the world’s population meet all the diagnostic criteria for BDD.
The exact cause(s) of BDD differ(s) from person to person. However, most clinicians believe it could be a combination of biological, psychological and environmental factors from their past or present. Abuse and neglect can also be contributing factors.
I think that there is an element of fear invovled as well. I personally know many, many,many women that equate sex with love and if your big bouncing boobs get you men, you get sex and there fore you are loved. We know that not to be true in all cases but if you are already suffering from BDD then you most likely would not listen to someone else.
I have had three female personal trainers who had gotten boob jobs. Because of extreme loss of body fat from working out so much they lost the size of their breasts. Outside of a source of vanity they use their bodies as sales tools to get clients and they “have to look good”. Do I advocate that? No. Did I have a hard time taking health and fitness tips from someone who could have died having new boobies put in? Hell yeah.
So, I get all the stories. It just leaves me wishing that we lived in a society that honored women’s brains more than their BOOBS. Just sayin…
NAMASTE