Who knows what you mean?

March 1, 2015


A match is a match. It could be a lover or it could be a friend, but when someone “gets” you?

It’s priceless.

Those moments when no explanation is needed? When an exchange of a glance or a roll of the eye says everything?

They’re irresistible.  Just ask Pooh and Piglet.  They’ve got a deep friendship.

Don’t you love the clarity of message when two minds unite on a topic? It’s like the connection of two electric currents. Like a puzzle piece snapping into place. No misunderstanding.

M and I have those moments all the time, mostly based on our shared heritage and similarly warped sense of of the world.

But that kind of deep relationship is not limited to lovers.

Gay husband and I have them all the time.

Last week I sat in a hospital room with a friend, and we had quite a few of those eye-rolling moments, when words aren’t needed but judgment on a situation is pronounced.

I have lots of friends and acquaintances, but the people I’m closest with have one thing in common:

They always know what the fuc k I mean.

Are there people in your life who always know what you mean?

14 comments on “Who knows what you mean?
  1. Pat says:

    Oh yes, thankfully, I have a few of those people around me who know WTF I mean without a word.

  2. I have that with Jose….sadly a lot less with other people!

  3. Carol Graham says:

    I have the fortune to have that with my daughter, sister, and a couple friends. But mostly, the ones who “get” me are my dogs. They know each emotion and body language and how to deal with it!

  4. Carolann says:

    Yes, it’s stellar when folks “get you”! I love that connection as rare as it can be at times. You always give us awesome thinking prompts…love it!

  5. Debbie D. says:

    I know exactly what you mean, Carol! 🙂 My husband and I share that, plus a couple of long time friends and yes of course, the dogs! Dogs always get me, better than most people (and vice versa).

  6. Alana says:

    My husband and I have that. My best friend and her spouse of nearly 43 years finish each other’s sentences. It’s sweet.

  7. Amy says:

    Yes, I do have a friend of 25 years like that.

  8. I have very few relationships like that…well, I have very few relationships period but hubby and I have always been sort of loners together if that makes any sense. We can be in a room full of people and have a whole conversation without saying a word. It’s been like that since the moment we met 24 years ago. I had two friends like that but I lost both of them one to a stroke at 41 and the other to suicide at 40. I have one left who means the world to me but we don’t get to make eye contact often.

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