Why ask the odds?

September 13, 2017

defy-odds“How long do I have, Doctor?”

I’m not a fan of that question because it can be anxiety-producing. Besides, answers to that question are misleading. And I’m pretty sure doctors don’t like it, either.

Because odds are just statistics.  They’re not strength or character or cells. They’re not genetics. They’re not luck.

They don’t take into account the power of the mind/body connection.

Some people will always defy the odds. Some will always have better than average results.

So why even ask the odds?  Some will always defy them and why shouldn’t it be you?

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24 comments on “Why ask the odds?
  1. I LOVE this! When I first struck out on my own, I knew the odds were stacked against me, but I figured someone always beats them. Why not me?

  2. Bill Sweeney says:

    Everyone in the universe needs to bookmark this. The biggest dreams come from the biggest risks. Never be afraid to take them.

  3. Barbara says:

    The mind/body connection can be tricky but, there’s a reason some of us follow our gut, at times, over our head.

  4. Gary Sidley says:

    If I’m honest, ‘how long do I have, doctor’ would still be a question I’d ask if suffering some serious illness. And when the doc fudges his/her answer, I’d ask, ‘given 1000 people with exactly the same condition, how many would you expect to be alive in 12 months.’ While recognising the truth in much of what you said about mind influencing outcome, I’d still want to know the odds.

  5. Diane says:

    The odds are just that: ODD. Why limit yourself, indeed!

  6. Maureen says:

    I really love this because you are right, the answer is based on odds and stats which don’t apply to EVERYONE. I know people who were given six months to live or 5 years and guess what? They are either 1 still living or went on to live another 30 plus years til age 90. One never knows … so don’t ask such an anxiety inducing question, sometimes it’s okay to just not know (I think it will help you enjoy life a bit longer).

  7. I’ve never taken what the doctor told me at 100%. I’ve always said, they’re not God, they can’t say that with 100% certainty.

  8. Pam says:

    Doctors definitely get it wrong sometimes. I know people who were supposed to live three months…. ten years ago.

  9. Liz Mays says:

    This is great motivation! There’s always going to be a degree of uncertainty. It’s definitely worth it to go for it.

  10. I hope it’s not one of the questions I ask my doctor someday. But it would still be nice to ask it. I’d like to know how long I have to fight.

  11. Shell says:

    Sometimes it’s better not to know the odds. They can seem like a self-fulfilly prophecy.

  12. So true! Why can’t it be me that defies the odds. I will have to check out Healing Spirit. Sometimes you just need a little nudge and perspective to regain your motivation.

  13. I absolutely love that quote! I’ll be adding it to my favorites. This is such a great mindset to have.

  14. Crystal says:

    I’m pretty darn practical. I prefer to write down my goals and push myself to accomplish them, rather than hoping or wishing.

  15. Jina says:

    I always try to avoid not to know the odds! My own developed style!

  16. This is such a good point, Carol. Of course I would ask the question, but really what does it matter???

  17. Jennifer says:

    I wouldn’t want the answer to affect how I behave. I have goals that I need to keep moving towards. But something tells me, I’d still ask.

  18. Brianne says:

    Oh that question would freak me out. I agree don’t question your faith. Whatever is meant to be will be!

  19. Laurie Stone says:

    I don’t like getting any sort of information like “odds” or anything. I think it can plant an idea in your brain and can lead you somewhere you might not have gone otherwise. You’re right, it doesn’t take into character or determination.

  20. Lee Gaitan says:

    As my friend likes to say, we don’t have expiration dates stamped on us anywhere. I have seen loved ones defy the odds several times in my life, enough to believe that is true. The will is a mighty weapon.

  21. I made the mistake of reading about the odds of survival when my brother was diagnosed with cancer at age 46 just over a year ago. BIG mistake! Long prayer-filled story short, he is now cancer FREE. Miracles happen, so forget the odds! ♥

  22. adriana says:

    Definitely important to not limit yourself! Very interesting perspective too – I think it’s important to learn to grow and be more positive! Love this!

  23. Dogvills says:

    Another thought provoking post. Given certain situations, I would still want to know where I stand or to know the odds. It would be better for me to plan my “survival” strategy if I know what I am fighting against. Just my two cents.

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