Do NOT text me…

July 27, 2016

textingTexting is the most impersonal means of communication I can think of.

Which is why I absolutely do not want to get a birthday message by text.

Pick up the phone and call me.

Send me a card.

Send me an email, even.

But if you text me a birthday greeting you’re telling me that I am not important enough for you to think about for more than a nano-second.

Or that you are super lazy. Which is not my problem, but yours.

So when I got a text message from my (blood) nephew that said “Happy birthday!” the other day while I was waiting for my plane in a Montana airport, I texted back the following:

I’m sorry. This phone does not accept birthday messages by text.

My phone rang immediately. It was my 26-year-old (blood) nephew.

“You really ought to call Verizon and get that fixed,” he said.

Yes, blood always shows, doesn’t it?

That’s my nephew!

31 comments on “Do NOT text me…
  1. Liz Mays says:

    Good on you! It’s the new wave of things, that’s for sure. I’m trying to adjust, but there’s really nothing like a phone call. Ever.

  2. Linda Hobden says:

    I do text Happy Birthday to my sister – we have done for years – we do send cards too – but she rarely answers her phone to talk & I find it’s better to text than disturb somebody who may be working etc. I rather get a text than be ignored completely!

  3. Leanne says:

    I’ve noticed more and more people taking their birthdays off facebook for the same reason. I love a fb birthday message, but I want it to say more than “happy birthday” – maybe you could stretch to a sentence or two to show me some love on my special day! Loved that the nephew has your sense of humour!

  4. My daughter texts me from her room, and I ignore them all. That’s not the way we communicate when we are in the same house!

  5. A phone call is always best but sometimes a text is the easiest way to reach someone if they don’t answer the phone. Then they can call when it’s convenient for you. Happy Birthday, Carol. I hope it was amazing!

  6. Donna says:

    When I first say the title of your blog today I thought, “oh crap, I just sent a long text” and then I saw it was birthday…and then I wondered….did I text happy birthday? As someone who doesn’t mind a happy birthday text (September 2…) I often treat others with my passive agressive attitude. I am sharpening up a lot of things lately, You are right a birthday text is a bit shallow…it’s sort of a “box checker” isn’t it? Happy Birthday my friend…I am so pleased you were fishing and floating for your day of Jubilee!

  7. Diane says:

    We are awash in impersonal personal communication choices. There’s an oxymoron!

  8. Candy says:

    My favorite thing is a birthday card and if it is handmade means that much more

  9. I don’t mind a text. I’d rather be remembered than forgotten! Sometimes it is just nice to know someone remembered your birthday! Very clever though!

  10. I have a laugh a little as I’m the exact opposite. I HATE phone calls and only like cards that are funny. I’d much, much, much rather be texted than called. I have a 4 year old and a 3 month old. Phone calls are not just next to impossible but also a bit stressful.(visiting from Welcome Home Wednesday)

  11. WendysHat says:

    this is EXACTLY how I feel too! The younger generation doesn’t like personal contact as much as we do though.

  12. Jennifer says:

    That was a great laugh! Thanks for sharing. My son only calls out of desperation, otherwise, all communication is via text. Along with Snap Chat and Twitter, texting appears to be the preferred form of communication of the under 30 crowd. And I know that if he wasn’t going to see me on my birthday, then a text will be what I get. I guess I’m happy that he still uses full words when texting.

  13. Andrea says:

    Texting is not the issue – sometimes when i’m on FB (I’m a group admin) – and i get these PMs from peeps who have nothing to do with my work!

  14. Ha ha! My mom hates the birthday text. She finds it insulting, and said she’d rather have me forget her birthday altogether then send a birthday text. Not that you are on the same level with my mom. She actually hates social media too, and thinks we’re all just too damn nosy for our own good. Hehe. Anyway, I like to send birthday texts when I forget to mail a card or buy stamps. That’s a very real possibility. 🙂

  15. angie says:

    sad that the new social ways of sending messages have taken over the old fashioned ways of communicating

  16. courtney says:

    I absolutely agree with you!! I much prefer to have a face to face conversation with someone and when it comes to a special day I would prefer to receive a call or a visit!

    La Belle Sirene

  17. helene cohen bludMan says:

    I love getting birthday cards in the mail but that seems to be going the way of the dinosaurs.

  18. Jessica says:

    I agree with you! I like getting calls and cards on my birthdays. Texts not so much! I don’t know about other people, but I do love getting Facebook posts. It is the only time of year that I feel popular on social media.

    Happy Birthday! Hope you got plenty of wishes and lots of spoiling from loved ones!

  19. Sophia says:

    I understand what you are saying. It would not bother me half the time I do not answer my phone because I don’t know where it is.

  20. Bree Hogan says:

    Love it! And what a fab response you got from your nephew!

  21. sue says:

    I agree re the text but I do love your nephew’s response! I was only thinking the other day when we received a Sympathy card that not many people take the time to send cards anymore. I do prefer a quick phone call on my birthday but understand we live in a busy world. Thanks for sharing with us at #OvertheMoon.

  22. Cori says:

    Everyone is different and if people know that you don’t want texts for birthday wishes, they should respect that.

  23. According to me a phone call is a best way to communicate and yes if someone is not reachable through call then we need to text message!

  24. Nicole Escat says:

    You’re amazing! I think this is a great way to keep communication by greeting personally or in a little bit effort.

  25. It’s always better to personalize a message. It only takes a little bit of effort to make someone’s day.

  26. Amber says:

    I do have to agree that I prefer a phone call or card, but understand that sometimes a text is easier due to working, screaming kids (with 2 under two it makes gone calls near impossible at times), etc. I’d rather a text than nothing at all.

  27. Rebecca West says:

    Oops! I’m a texter! 😉 Thanks for linking up at Welcome Home Wednesdays!

  28. Yes, that is your nephew! LOL! Hope you had a great birthday! Congratulations on being featured on #overthemoon. Glad to have you linking up with us!

  29. AJ Sefton says:

    My daughter recently had major surgery. She received about three hundred get-well text messages and four cards.

    When she felt better she read the cards over and over. know she was disappointed. My hope is that she took something from this.

  30. Sorry you were so sick, but glad you are on the mend. I think we all find out things about ourselves we don t like when we re sick, lol. Thank you for the feature, too! I m not a pleasant sick person either. My poor husband has to deal with it too. I love the selfie to your adult daughter. That sounds like something I would do!

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