A couple years ago I was surfing the net and came across a call for submissions for a yet-to-find-a-publisher anthology on women’s friendships gone bad. You know, when women dump other women friends. Not necessarily Facebook unfriending. But unfriending none-the-less.
I’ve been the dumper and the dumpee, both, and had a couple of ideas for an essay. So I sat down at the keyboard and began one, only to realize that the second idea was probably better. So I set the other aside, wrote an essay about the second idea and sent it off to the editor. Who loved it.Well, ok, let me be honest. I sent it to my writing coach first. And then it was ready to go.
Well, of course, the editor and I began a correspondence and as it turned out, we knew each other. Because growing up, we lived only a few hundred yards from each other. Well, ok, let me be honest. She knew me but try as I might, my menopausal memory would not allow me to remember her. Which is hard to fathom because she is super-memorable. So maybe we knew each other and may be we didn’t. But we WERE across-the-field neighbors when we were kids. Which is kind of cool. Isn’t the Internet great?
Because she’s also great and because the concept is great and the essays MUST be great, because mine’s in it, she found a publisher.
Soon, on March 3 to be exact, Dumped: Stories of Women Unfriending Women edited by Nina Gaby will be published. I’m dying to read it and not just because it’s got one of my essays. I’m dying to read it because I think the topic is fascinating and I want to read the stories of the other women writers.
For me the decision to dump a woman friend is never made easily. I’ve done it very few times, but I did it last year after someone I loved like a sister betrayed me in a huge way. It was…necessary.
I’ve been dumped, too, and for reasons that have been clear. Or not so clear.
Dumping, it turns out, is common ground. It can also be complex and I’m anticipating these essays in a big way.
It’s been a long time since I’ve been so excited about a book.
It’s ready for preorder on Amazon right now. Hope you’ll pre-order one. Or maybe two, because you absolutely want to give it to your BFF. Assuming she hasn’t dumped you yet.