Enemies & angels

October 25, 2016

enemiesMany fundamental Christians rile on about Satan as “the enemy.” I’ve got to tell you–that kind of extreme talk about enemies never made sense to me.  Enemy simply means active opposition, but we’ve imbued it with all sorts of evil connotations. That’s why I really don’t like the term at all.

So I had to stop and think when I saw a meme that said something like, “Lord, why did you bring me through this water?” and the answer was “Because your enemies can’t swim.”

Enemies. Hmmm.

Sure, there are people in my life who have hurt me badly–as I’m sure you’ve experienced, too.  So it might seem understandable to call them “enemies.”

Looking at the world around me I’ve seen more misogynists in this election cycle than I’ve seen in my entire life until now. And I worked for at least one. Are these people my enemies?

You know how the Divine sends angels with messages at the most unexpected times? It happened to me recently when I was fairly unglued on Facebook over some of the trash talk I was seeing among the electorate.  One of those unexpected angels posted this response:

Hang in there, sister ~ these are the people who are gonna teach us to be tolerant,
big-hearted, non-judgmental, patient & loving ~ if we don’t kill em.

Bingo! Now THAT made sense…instead of enemies, we have teachers.

When we face active opposition, what if we turned our knee-jerk response around and thought of that opposition as an opportunity to learn?

Don’t think I don’t know how hard that can be. Don’t think I don’t know that some of us might think that the opposition has nothing to teach  us.

But maybe they do.

Maybe, as my angel pointed out, they’re teaching us transcendent love.

Now THAT’S something worth thinking about now and forever.



37 comments on “Enemies & angels
  1. candy says:

    Kill them with love, kindness and tolerance is what your saying. I agree most of the time. Sometimes it just doesn’t work and I just walk away.

  2. I like to try to turn things around in my heart to learn that for every bad deed there’s a good one, for every evildoer there’s an angel. This election cycle has been more than divisive and it’ll be awhile till things get to some kind of normal. I hope. I hope times infinity! So look for the angels. They’re everywhere.

  3. GiGi Eats says:

    I actually don’t have any enemies… At least, not that I know of. And I am thankful for that. I am the type of person that does not attract drama and I definitely am not a catty, mean person, and I think this is why the enemies just don’t exist in my life.

  4. Jenny says:

    It’s always good to return kindness to others, even if they aren’t being nice in return.

  5. I say Amen to this shot, sweet and to the point post Carol! I love the message. I find it hard to swallow the whole social media splashed with messages of “lets fight ABC” wit reference to disease, war and all the negative things gong on in life. Why? Because what we focus on expands.And the word fight goes with strong emotion! That emotion attracts more of what you are fighting into your life!

    So I prefer a Stand for Love For Peace, anything that brings a smile of joy one way or another’s to another’s face!

  6. Yes, opportunities to learn.I think that is the right way to look at it!

  7. What a wonderful post!

  8. Jay colby says:

    Great piece of writing I enjoyed reading this!

  9. Barbara says:

    I don’t believe I’ve ever thought in terms of enemies, honestly. I’ve had many toxic people in my life but I don’t hang with them very long. I have made some changes of late, to remove those who are so out there I cannot even relate anymore. Life is too short for blind insanity.

  10. what a great way to look at it. Everyone has something to teach even if we think we don’t want to learn from them.

  11. Carolann says:

    Love that quote Carol! This post makes so much sense. They are our teachers indeed. So insightful…love this post <3

  12. You either learn from people or let them get to you.

  13. Beth Havey says:

    I like your take on this, Carol.You are open to taking a negative and making it
    positive. Love that.


  15. Nina says:

    In my opinion having a positive attitude and outlook is key to happiness!

  16. I have no enemies. There are people who have come and gone from my life who may have caused upheaval or pain, but carrying around that kind of anger is no good for anyone. Even during this election season, I find myself more often feeling sadness and disappointment in some who think differently than I do, but I have never felt they were directly opposed to me. In the end we are all just trying to make the best of our lives.

  17. Love this post! I love how one of your angels came at the right time with a perfect post.

  18. Amber Myers says:

    This is a nice way of thinking about it. I always think enemies must just be unhappy in their own life and try to stay kind.

  19. Teresa Kunberger says:

    My momma always said kill with kindness and do it with a smile. Then when one knees say a prayer for em!

  20. Crystal Gard says:

    I’ve always said “Butter then up and kill them with kindness” , I believe that there can always be something learned from those we may see as our “enemies”

  21. Elizabeth O. says:

    I love the positive take on this whole enemy thing, Carol. It’s really going to change the way you view people that have a different opinion to yours. This election has been nothing but a show of negativity and divisiveness. It’s sad but that doesn’t mean you won’t learn something from it.

  22. Liz Mays says:

    Twisting things in a new light takes a special kind of love. It’s not easy, but it’s doable.

  23. Susan cooper says:

    Hello Carol, speaking of angels, this immediately reminded me of Ecclesiasticus 2:5
    “For gold is tried in the fire, and acceptable men in the furnace of adversity.” What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. 🙂

  24. There is one theory that when we encounter someone who really pushes our buttons, it’s because we are seeing some quality in them that we really don’t like about ourselves.These people have come into our lives to teach us valuable lessons in forgiveness, understanding and compassion.

  25. Angie Scheie says:

    I like thinking about our enemies here on earth as teachers. There is some real truth in that! I also have been pretty grossed out by this election. However, I don’t have a problem with Satan being labeled an enemy. If you don’t believe he exists that’s one thing. But the Bible’s pretty clear about how we should view him. In my opinion. Your viewpoint is interesting though :).

  26. Liv says:

    It is a struggle to be thankful for them sometimes isn’t it Carol??

  27. Valerie says:

    Story of my life. This is well written. We live in a small town and it’s amazing how many enemies one can have they’ve never met.

  28. I’ve come to a point in my life when I’d rather walk away from negative people than make ‘enemies’ out of them.The stress and negativity is just not worth my while. 😀

  29. Kelly Reci says:

    This is so interesting. Sometimes, even if we don’t want to, we have many enemies than true friends.

  30. Glenda says:

    It is so true some people are acting out of control and attacking each other. I try my hardest not to look at the negative remarks when I leave a positive comment on the candidate that I’m rooting for.

  31. Dogvills says:

    This is really a good post this is so interesting and I enjoyed reading this

  32. Beautiful thoughts! I can honestly say that I don’t know anyone who I call an enemy. I’m thankful for that!

  33. BISmah says:

    I believe in being kind to others even if they are disrespectful towards me. We don’t really know what a person is going through or what it is like to walk in their shoes.

  34. Teachers instead of enemies – I love it! <3

  35. Lisa Rios says:

    Such a beautiful post and a great reminder that everyone should learn to return kindness to each other. I think we all have enemies all around, but the worst enemy is the Ego, which is well within us. If we let it go & show kindness & care, we will win many hearts make a positive impact on others as well!

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