These days, I find myself increasing critical of those with whom I spend my time. Critical, not in the fault-finding sense, but in the “assessment” sense.
I’m not sure what stars are misaligned at present, but I’ve been seeing a lot of unpleasant behavior among some of the people in my sphere. My bullshiz detector is EXCELLENT and it’s been pinging big-time lately.
Have you ever spent a day with someone who talks incessantly about themselves, but never once asks how YOU are? And even if you interject a comment un-related to them, within seconds they’ll say “But back to….” and that’s back to themselves.
Or how about the acquaintance who calls at the last minute to ask a favor that would inconvenience you, but never really asks, just hints around and then says “never mind….” without really telling you what the never mind was about?
How about people who don’t respond to texts, emails, calls or gifts? Who seem constitutionally unable to say thank you?
And even those who come into your company in a vile mood and stay that way?
Or those who think that anything they do or have done is bigger, better and not as significant, and oh-by-the-way, they know everything as well.
And even one day after I scheduled this post, I got a call from someone who wanted to scam us for something but tried to disguise it as a get-together. No, no and…no. Even more aggravating? It was the third “scam” they’d tried on us in three days. And they aren’t even a close friend.
Self-centered behavior is running rampant in my little world and to be honest, I’m tired of it. My dilemma is that some of my very closest friends are scattered across the country and even the globe, offering few opportunities for a real sit-down in person, and I’m just old-school enough to need that every once in a while.
I have to think that the Universe is asking me to clean house, to limit my normally generous and initiating behavior. To be more discriminating how I spend my time.
Maybe the Universe is asking me to spend more time alone and writing.
So, today, I’m asking, what do you think the message could be?