Get on with it

October 27, 2011

Life is something that happens in a flash.
We just have a brief moment here,
and then we are gone.
~Steve Jobs, quoted in
Jeff Goodell’s article in
Rolling Stone

I’ve never been more aware of this than I am now, at this stage of my life. I can’t say I ever thought I’d be looking back at my career at this age, but then, I could never fathom being this age.

It’s not that I thought I wouldn’t make it. It’s that I never thought about aging at all. I felt invincible. No matter how old I got, I always felt like I was the same age.

When I was under 30, I felt no different than I did at 18. At 45 I felt 30. And until now, I felt 40. Maybe it’s because I’m retired from my job, but I finally feel my age. At least intellectually. And I no longer feel invincible.

So here’s what I’ll say:

Get on with it.

That’s right. Get on with it. Time’s wasting. You aren’t getting any younger. Late blooming is one thing, but if you wait too long, well, the bloom is off. It’s done with. The plant’s just too old.

If you’re waiting to make good on your potential, don’t wait too long or you’ll still be waiting when your brief moment is up.

If you want to be in a relationship, then go after one. I mean it. There’s someone for everyone and if you’re realistic about your expectations, you can find that someone. Forget all the moaning, weeping and complaining about failed relationships, bad dates and divorce. Get on with it. There’s someone for everyone and it’s a numbers game. Click! on to the next.

If you’ve been spinning your wheels at a meaningless job and want better for yourself, go after it. Let go of the thoughts, assumptions, beliefs, even, that have been holding you back all this time. Because there will come a day when your body creaks, your hair will be grey and better just won’t be available to you any more. Hell, in this job market, it’s barely available to anyone now.

If you’re stuck in old patterns, it’s time to dig yourself out. Seriously. Past time. Because one day the mud will dry around you and all that will be left is you and your old stuff. Stuff no one worth anything wants to deal with.

One day the sun will set on this life. Sure, you’ll have another.

But for now, all you have is this one.

Make the most of it.

Get on with it.

6 comments on “Get on with it
  1. Anonymous says:

    As I am wont to say: Just do it!!
    Love this post

  2. Thanks, Beth! I say that, too! (of course!)

  3. Anonymous says:

    Great post. Been stuck in a two year relationship, hoping he will change. But the lies and cheating continue. Gotta move on! Thanks.

  4. Yes, smart move. He is not going to change. Best of luck! Keep reading, some of the next half dozen posts will resonate for you on this. xoxo

  5. Anonymous says:

    Looking forward to your next posts on the topic of relationships. It’s easier said than done. I have ignored calls, texts, etc. and somehow he works his way back in. He’s very charming. He actually fits the description of a sociopath. I don’t know how to shake him off now that I am finally sick of dealing with the lies and cheating. Sorry to vent on your blog, but I read your posts and I get a feeling of empowerment, and then I’m back to square one. So frustrating!

  6. Been there. This sounds very old-school, but the best defense against that is to start dating again. Seriously. Distraction and being treated well are two great treatments. Stay tuned, though!

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