October 11, 2015

I know lots of women.

Women who have been with me through thick and thin.

Women who give more than they take from me and women who take more than they give me.

Women I met casually and later became one of my nearest and dearest.

Women at a distance to whom I feel close.

Women I don’t see a lot of but still love.

Women who have used me.

Women at a distance who stay there, their desire or mine.

Women with whom I share a cultural frame of reference.

Women who know the family secrets.

Women who claim the title BFF but don’t give enough to merit it.

Women with whom I love to travel—-the world and through life.

Women who are coffee and a movie dates.

Women who’ve disappeared from my life without a trace for a reason or no reason at all.

Women I’ve known only online (so far) but with whom I share some kind of special bond.

Women who are way older than me and women who are younger.

I know a lot of women.

Women have come and gone over the years, but the ones who stick?

Girlfriends.  That’s who they are.


There’s a beauty in having a girlfriend with whom you share…something. Because girlfriends are all about sharing.

And today I’m celebrating my girlfriends. All of them.  If I call you my girlfriend, well, that means I think you’re something special.

I hope you know who you are.

Love you all bigtime. And thank your for the rich texture you bring to my life.

14 comments on “Girlfriends
  1. ryder ziebarth says:

    Back atcha!

  2. Those friendships are so important!

  3. Nina Gaby says:

    Love this, Carol, for obvious reasons (my book that you so brilliantly contributed to) but then I think, had I stayed in our old hometown would we have been girlfriends? Would our mutual talents and interests have found each other back in the rather cultural wasteland I recall as junior high? I love thinking about this stuff. As well as the post-feminist ideals of how women should be with each other….

  4. Janice Wald says:

    Hi Carol,
    I have a core group of women that I love and definitely add to the quality of my life. Thanks for reminding us how special women friends are.

  5. Kathy says:

    I really enjoyed this post, Carol. At least once weekly if not more, my day is made far better by something a “girlfriend” says, writes, posts, shares etc. Girlfriends are icing on the cake and hey, cake without icing is, well, it’s just another ordinary pastry.
    I often wish men could discover this bond of friendship for their lives as I truly think only real girlfriends know the impact they have on one another.
    Great post, Girlfriend.

    • I think the bond is very different between women, for sure. But I do have a female bond with a male friend or two and I treasure it. Not like a usual connection between genders.

  6. Amazing how wonderful online friendships can be, girlfriend!

  7. Quin says:

    Jeez, I’m in tears! In a world where girls/women are taught to gossip, to envy, and to compete, I can’t tell you how much this is needed. I’m lucky that I have some good girlfriends in my life. Thanks for the reminder!

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