“But you know, she’s not a girl’s girl, you know what I mean?”
My friend was talking about someone we both know who had been particularly ungracious in a social situation.
Of course, that person was just plain rude, which is an entirely different category.
The conversation made me think:
What IS a girl’s girl, anyway?
I’ve seen a variety of definitions.
But here’s what I think it boils down to:
a girl’s girl is someone other women want to be around. It’s as simple as that.
It usually means that they’re fun. They like to laugh. A lot.
That they don’t backbite. They’re not suspicious of the motives of other women.
They don’t think they have to be the only princess in the room.
They’re nice to other people and gracious, especially to other women. (Ungracious behavior is what I think my friend was referring to.)
A girl’s girl likes girly stuff, like cosmetics and pretty dresses.
No, a girl’s girl isn’t giddy or anything. She just likes the feminine.
Yes, a feminine girl’s girl can be a feminist. A common misconception about the label, feminist, is that we aren’t feminine. So wrong.
A guy’s girl is someone guys can talk to over a beer. And can laugh with.
I think I’m a girl’s girl and a guy’s girl, too and I don’t think the two are mutually exclusive.
So, which are you?
I’m interested in what you think about the distinction, or if there is even a distinction to be made.