Sorella (u know who u are), you epitomize “gracious.” In comparison, I seem like a bitch. Ok, compared to many, I seem like a bitch. But I’m gracious.
It’s a lost art, that’s what I’ve noticed. Being gracious is all too rare in our world today and I can point to multiple examples of that.
Have you sent an email with thoughtful information you think the recipient would enjoy? Or one that provides the addressee with something they actually wanted? And has it been met with stone cold silence? Do you wonder if it’s gone into a black hole? It has to have been swallowed up because you never got a response, much less a thank-you.
Seriously, how hard is it to type two words and hit “send”? Thank. You. Easy as can be.
I’m not even talking about the business-related email that gets no response to indicate receipt. And no answer if you’ve asked a question.
How about the clueless person who is so self-involved they have to have everything their way? Everything. Collaboration, gracious compromise–nonexistent.
Even when others are doing them a favor or have extenuating circumstances, they simply won’t give. They’ll stretch and stretch, split hairs and otherwise work overtime to be sure they have it their way. (Hold the pickles.)
And you really don’t want to get me started about the number of people who fail to RSVP to big events like weddings and small events like parties. These kind of people have no regard for any planning the inviter has to do, even if it’s catered. This happens ALL THE TIME.
When M. and I remarried we had a catered reception. Our plans revolved around the head count. We didn’t want to pay for food and drink that would go to waste. And yet, almost a third of the invitees failed to respond at all. One couple asked if they could bring a friend of theirs. Not a house guest, a local. To our wedding reception meant for our dearest friends. For which we were paying a pretty penny. I mean. Seriously?
These are not clueless people. What they are is ungracious.
I have one word for them.
No, actually, I have four:
Yes, I took this photo & captioned it.