A year after my mother died a therapist thought I’d been grieving too long. So she prescribed me an antidepressant.
Mindlessly, I filled the prescription and took the pills. When I had significant side effects after the first month, she prescribed me a different one.
Seriously? I thought. Why am I taking these? Depression is a perfectly normal response to loss.
I didn’t have too little serotonin, I reasoned. I was GRIEVING. Why would I want to numb my feelings?
She was misguided. I never filled that prescription. I did go on grieving. Eventually, though, my time of active grieving morphed into something less consuming. Less painful.
Don’t get me wrong: I still felt the loss of my mother. But it wasn’t an every moment thought as it had been. Over time, all I felt was love. And more love. Oh, and gratitude.
Here’s the thing about grief: it takes as long as it takes. And other people don’t get to have an opinion about how long it takes.
Nor should you be impatient with your grief. If you’ve lost a loved one (or for that matter, a beloved pet, a job, a family home) –expect that you will grieve and resist the urge to shut that down simply because you or others think it’s gone on too long.
In time, your grief will change. In its OWN time, not anyone else’s.
In recognition of that, I developed three products that support grieving people. One is that beautiful deck of 50 affirmations that you see pictured above. The Releasing Grief deck of affirmation cards HERE gives you a daily healing mantra, if you will, to focus your thoughts. Instead of covering up your feelings, the cards encourage you to feel them and be ok with feeling them. Because they’re NORMAL.
A Guided Journal through Grief HERE is a way to get your deepest feelings about your loved one out through writing, drawing, collage, prayer and meditations. Each page has a prompt or activity that will help you work through your grief in a healthy way.
And finally, Coping with Grief downloadable audio HERE is a beautiful guided imagery recording that takes the listener a journey where he or she will sit and talk with their loved one, saying all the things they may not have been able to say–or that they’d like to repeat. And remember, this one and all my pre-recorded downloadable audios are on sale HERE to celebrate my launch. Use the coupon code LAUNCH to get the special price of $4.99 through Sunday night.
Sometimes you just need to talk about it. How well I know that. Hypnotherapy sessions revolving around grief issues are always available HERE.
Each of these grief-oriented products aim to help work with and through grief issues. Instead of asking you to “stuff” those feelings, each asks you to feel into your grief and in that way, over time, it transforms into pure love.
Maybe they can help you, too. Come see all my grief offerings by topic, up top in the tabs, HERE.