The Mexican Day of the Dead is actually several days, during which loved ones who have transitioned are honored with altars, offerings and visits to the cemetery. During these days, the spirits of the dead are invited to come for a visit.
The holiday falls within my own biggest season of loss: my mother, soulmate dog, grandfather, grandmother, a favorite cousin and closest friend all died in the last two months of the year. (When you bury your mother on Christmas Eve, the holiday is never the same.)
So in honor of all of our loved ones who have made their transition, I wanted to share a really beautiful song by the One Voice Children’s Choir. As you listen to these sweet, angelic voices singing Memories, I hope you’ll take a moment to honor each of your loved ones who are now in spirit. This song has special meaning today, in the age of Covid. And brings to mind the late 1980s and the 1990s, when I volunteered with an organization that provided emotional support to those with HIV. Many died and I remember and honor them all this season.
If you are so inclined, I’d love for you to name all of your loved ones in spirit in the Comments below. Leave a message to them or just the name.
Here’s the song. And here are some photos of my own loved ones now in spirit.
CEO of the ICU. I love this 2015 photo of my BFF, Marilyn, on the phone in the Stanford ICU, because it shows her indomitable spirit, running the show even from the ICU six months before she passed. She used the first version of the healing gifts I offer, encouraged me to offer them to others and inspired the grief products. I dedicated my business to her: AHealingSpirit.org
My parents at M & my first wedding in July 1972. My dad died in May 2008, my mother in Dec. 1999. They adored my husband; how delighted they’d be to know we have remarried!
My maternal grandmother with her youngest son, Jack, our favorite uncle, back in the day. Both in spirit now. Not pictured is Jack’s older brother, Joe, now in spirit. I also honor all my aunts and uncles–every one of them in spirit, and all of my grandparents. And my parents-in-law.
Papa, my maternal grandfather and favorite of us all. And me. This was the man who taught me about and showed me love.
My cousin, Sandy, taken Sept 2019. She died at the end of that Dec. Sandy lived in my part of Calif. for some years & we connected back then, and reconnected last year in such a beautiful way. We were looking forward to hanging out while I was here this year. But she moved on, the second of us cousins to do so. Her brother left first, decades ago.
My beautiful boy, the truest love of my life, Riley.
Maybe you’d like to connect with your loved ones on the other side? Email me and let’s talk. Or….If you’d like gentle support for your grief, take a look at our beautiful condolence gifts at www.etsy.com/shop/ahealingspirit