A kiss isn’t just a kiss

April 7, 2016


Ancient lovers had some romantic thoughts….they believed that the spirit was carried in the breath and that’s how kissing united souls.

I can’t say that they’re wrong, can you?

Have you ever experienced the uniting of souls with just a kiss?

A kiss isn’t just a kiss, not at all. It can be the repository of deep passion and longing. It can be an expression of deep love. And it can bring souls together in the most beautiful and moving of ways. The most overwhelming of ways. So overwhelming that we sometimes don’t know what to do with all that feeling.

And of course, souls aren’t found near the gonads, you know that, right? Not at all. For me, the spark usually ignites when brains meet up. I love that feeling of “…seriously? that’s what you’re about? I’m intrigued….”  That’s where it starts for me.

So that’s why this is true:



If the eyes are the windows to the soul, and a kiss is a soul-uniting experience, well, somewhere in there is what it’s all about.

As an added benefit, kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute.

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling a sudden surge of basorexia.


Tell us what you think about kissing in the Comments below.

59 comments on “A kiss isn’t just a kiss
  1. Nancy Fox says:

    Love this Carol…And the added benefit, kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute!

  2. Robin Masshole Mommy says:

    Kissing can definitely be very intimate and passionate. It depends who you’re kissing, though.

  3. Sage says:

    The closest I’ve come to experiencing a uniting of souls with a kiss was at my wedding, but that was more symbolic than anything. We were married on a Tuesday afternoon in the Gibraltar Registry Office with four German witnesses we found on the street 5 minutes before the ceremony. It was anything but intimate, but it was the perfect wedding for us.

  4. Skipah says:

    Basorexia that’s a new one on me LOL.

  5. Wow…there’s a word for that? And you found it—how?

  6. Jennifer says:

    I love kissing. If it were a sport, I would be at practice every day!

  7. Lisha Fink says:

    I still remember vividly the best kiss of my life. I thought there would never, ever be anyone who could kiss like that. I wonder where that guy ended up?

  8. The best kisses are those given and not taken! A kiss which is the culmination of understanding and acceptance is the best of them all.
    Thanks for adding to my vocabulary today!

  9. Linda says:

    Yes, have to agree, there’s nothing like a great kiss! It’s more about the connection and being lost in the moment for me. A great kiss can wipe away a mediocre day in seconds – exhilarating!

  10. Laurie Oien says:

    Some good kissing depends on how many glasses of wine of I’ve had! I’ve always wondered what does it mean if you kiss with eyes closed or open?

  11. Lori says:

    I love the thought that “the spirit was carried in the breath and that’s how kissing united souls.” Ah romance!
    I also learned a new word today- basorexia. Thanks.

  12. Shari EberTs says:

    What a great new word! I always enjoy your posts. Thanks for sharing.

  13. tara pittman says:

    Kissing is very special indeed. That first kiss is always great.

  14. Headed to a college reunion & was just thinking about some of the guys who were the best kissers on campus. There was one I’ll never forget. Wasn’t the sharpest knife in the drawer, but the guy could kiss!!!!

  15. Very good read, never knew kissing burned calories!

  16. Ellen Dolgen says:

    I love your beautiful quote, Carol. It is true that the desire to kiss is just as wonderful as the kiss itself. I did marry the best kiss I have ever had!

  17. I went on a first date with this guy. He was nice and it was pleasant, but I knew I wasn’t going to go out with him again. Then he asked if he could kiss me goodbye. I said yes and spent the whole ride home thinking about when I would see him again – THE KISS WAS THAT GOOD.

  18. Kari ann says:

    Very beautiful quote! We all that spark put back in our relationships after years of being together.

  19. Hmmmmm, well I’m going to have to put this to the test this evening when hubs comes home:)

  20. I had 8 surgeries over the last 3 years on my jaw. Of course I missed eating and was on too many liquid diets but boy did I miss kissing. I am finally healed enough to make up for lost time, what fun!
    What a great word find!

  21. Rosemond says:

    What a beautiful post. I agree, kissing the right person can be a soul stirring and life affirming practice!

  22. sue says:

    Hi Carol I love the quote and I agree a kiss can bring so many feelings and can literally sweep you off your feet. I love the word but to me it sounds like a disease rather than a beautiful feeling. Have a lovely day.

  23. Kissing is very personal and passionite. I tell my husband all the time that we don’t kiss enough anymore.

  24. Definitely under the basorexia spell now. Sheesh… and hours before hubby gets home! Thanks, Carol! 😀

  25. Nancy Hill says:

    Carol, as always, your topics amaze me. You run the gamut, from soul recycling to soul kissing. I think there is a lot of information about genetic compatibility in kissing. Just one of my theories.

  26. Kissing is one of my favorite activities! Luckily, it’s one of my husband’s too 🙂

  27. This is so sweet and romantic <3 I love it!

  28. Amy Jones says:

    Totally true, my favorite kisses are the ones that come after a looong sweet stare <3.

  29. nothing like a great kiss to keep the connection alive – and a peck from a friend is lovely too!

  30. Jnaie EMaus says:

    From what I can remember! No, seriously, I love kissing. That’s what drew me to my husband, oh, so many years ago.

  31. Different people can identify kissing in so many different ways. I must admit that in my early days kissing was discovered because of curiosity. Not like when you grow older, kissing is a binding of emotion between two people. 🙂

  32. Elizabeth O. says:

    Kisses are the best! I think it’s one of the sweetest gestures. Thanks for all these facts about kisses!

  33. Emma white says:

    I agree kissing is Powerful thing! I never knew the back story to kissing though so it was very interesting to read about it. Thank you!

  34. SingedWings says:

    You have just perfectly nailed what I love about romance novels.

  35. Jessica says:

    I need to give my hubby a smooch!

  36. I knew it was my last first kiss when I kiss my hubby ! It was so romantic

  37. That quote over the florals is officially my new favorite! Beautiful!

  38. Rosey says:

    Very sweet. 🙂 It makes me think of the song, ‘a kiss is just a kiss…’

  39. Nicole Escat says:

    This is an interesting post. Glad you shared it! Thanks.

  40. Eugenia says:

    Agree with you, a kiss is a soul-uniting experience! And it is so romantic! Enjoy reading your lovely post!

  41. Kissing is a sweet and affectionate way to show love. I kiss my grand babies all the time, in a grandmotherly way. Those cute little chubby cheeks. I don’t have a spouse, though.

  42. Ooo – that is a fiery thought…kisses exchanged through the eyes before the lips. I didn’t know that kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute…wow…imagine that.

  43. Kati says:

    I love that quote about the best kiss and I experienced it quite literally, as I had to wait 2 years to kiss my other half for the first time – we’ve been in a long distance relationship and the only thing we could do was talk and look into each others’ eyes. And yes – it was the best kiss, when we finally met.

  44. For there to be a good kiss their has to be unequivocal chemistry and sometimes you can await eternity to find the right person. I am still waiting for the butterflies to kick in and the magic to emerge.

  45. Maya says:

    “kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute.” It’s a win-win situation!

  46. Awww, I found this article so romantic! Wow, I didn’t know that kissing burns 6.4 calories a minute. Thanks for sharing.

  47. Ryan Escat says:

    Love this post! So romantic and I learn new. Thanks for sharing!

  48. That quote about a kiss being the exchange with eyes is powerful! Thanks for adding that to your post. I am so lucky to have shared so many wonderful kisses with my husband! Here’s to many many more!

  49. Faye says:

    Huh – 6.4 calories per minute – who knew?? In some ways, the ANTICIPATION of the first kiss is better than the kiss itself… The greater the anticipation, the greater the kiss. Love this.

  50. Jenn Peters says:

    That’s such a beautiful way to think about kissing. Love it! Especially love that I now know exactly how many calories it burns too. Ha ha

  51. Kissing is something that I always check for. If the guy and I kissed and I felt nothing, it’s game over. A kiss is definitely not just a kiss.

  52. Matt says:

    Great article!
    Too much tongue on your first kiss is a definite thumbs down!
    A perfect first kiss should ideally involve mostly lip-to-lip contact.
    If her lips are slightly open and you feel the passion rising quickly, it might be a suitable time to engage the tongue.

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