Let go

February 17, 2017

I think this is very true. It’s certainly been true in my life.

Consider the times when you’ve been asked…or even REQUIRED…to let go of something important.

Maybe it’s a job you loved and lost. Or a relationship in which you loved and lost. A family home.

Maybe it’s letting go of controlling the decisions of a child.

Or just maybe it’s letting go of beliefs–or illusions–you’ve held on to your entire life.

There are so many times in our lives that we’re called upon to let go and often, our sanity depends on how tightly we try to maintain our grasp.

Back in my day there was a saying that went something like “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it was never meant to be.”

I must admit that I always thought that was a nice, 60s era saying that wouldn’t apply to me. Until it did.  I was forced to let go of my first husband. It wasn’t easy. I didn’t want to. But I finally did. It took all that I had, too. It was difficult. But it got easier in time.

And, believe it or not, 26 years later, there he was. He’d come back! It’s true. We’re remarried now, because we know it was meant to be.

let-goBut for that to happen, I had to let go of something else. Something that I valued. But something that was flawed.

Now, I would’ve been ok if he hadn’t come back. If I’d let go and that was that.  But I believe that he only came back because I had let go all those years ago. I didn’t try to desperately hang on to something that was not mine to keep at that time

So maybe you’re hanging on to something, yourself. Maybe it’s your youth. The healthy way you were in the past.  A job.  A relationship. It could be anything.

Know that I recognize the strength and courage it takes to let go of what is no longer ours. And that I honor the power you have to do just that.


26 comments on “Let go
  1. shaheen says:

    This is truly inspiring! It is really very difficult to let go. Holding on often seems like the most important thing. You are very brave.Thank you for sharing and helping others to make brave decisions too.

  2. Mary says:

    Thank you for your post. Words I need right now. It’s a scary task but for the best.

  3. “Let things or people go”is not easy,it’s true!
    We have to find the strenght to do this inside us!

  4. Thecla says:

    Thank you for your thoughts and words of wisdom! These are things that all of us can work on.

  5. Robin says:

    I practice this daily… letting go is a strength that doesn’t come easily!

  6. Sapana V says:

    The toughest task one has to do for leading a happy life. I have faced many situations for which the only thing I can do is.. Let Go.

  7. Katja says:

    “Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself.”
    Katja xxx

  8. It is seldom easy, but in actuality, it is quite freeing.

  9. Diane says:

    I had to let go of a son 18 years ago. And now he is coming back to us. Slowly. But in small, positive ways. You’re right. The hardest thing was letting go.

  10. shelley says:

    Man, this one hits home! For me it was a job that I thought I waned more than anything that turned out to be a nightmare. But turning loose was harder than I thought it would be. Thanks for the reminder that things sometimes have a way or turning out the way they’re meant to.

  11. Eazynazy says:

    You are so brave ..it’s very hard to let go .

  12. Jen Monks says:

    Wow, that is an inspiring and unusual story. I wish you much happiness with this second go-round.

  13. Amber Myers says:

    Yes, I have learned to let go of things as I get older. It can be difficult, but for the most part I learn that I’m happier doing so.

  14. Ashley says:

    Letting go is so hard! You are right that it takes courage!

  15. Jacqui Odell says:

    Letting go is such a hard thing to do. I am struggling with it right now.

  16. Elizabeth O. says:

    It’s never easy to let go. I think it’s something that we all have to learn though. In life there will be a lot of things that we need to let go of after all.

  17. Letting go. What a wonderful idea to ponder. There’s so much to let go of to move on. It’s so freeing and feel oh, so good. Yet somehow it’s never easy. Thanks for the reminder to let go, Carol. xo

  18. Lisa Froman says:

    Yep, I have had some hard lessons in letting go. Sometimes life steps in and kicks you in the butt and forces you to let go, too. I wonder if that is divine assistance. Lol.

  19. Ashley says:

    Wow what a story to tell! Congrats to you for learning to let go and for finding each other again

  20. What an amazing story you must share with your husband now, having had that time apart and still realized that you belonged together.And it’s true – there is so much value in letting go of what’s not meant to be. It gives you such power over your own path, and also opens the way for things are more fitting.

  21. This is true. Letting go is not easy, but it is a test of faith and courage. 🙂

  22. Jenni Petrey says:

    This is a very thought provoking post and you are right, sometimes letting go is hard to do but necessary. Thank you for sharing your story.

  23. Divya says:

    Definitely what I needed to hear this morning as I’m questioning some career decisions. Thanks for your wise words <3

  24. This is such a great reminder. Holding on to things that we can’t change only weighs us down, and it is always better for us in the long run to let it go.

  25. deb says:

    I’ve been through a divorce.. and believe me I relate to this so much! Great reading your thoughts.

  26. Hi Carol,
    I know people these quotes could apply to.
    Thanks for coming to the Blogger’s Pit Stop last week.
    Janice, Pit Stop Crew

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