It’s a beautiful summer day on our spectacularly colorful patio as I write this. Ah, the beauty of California!
A friend and I were talking recently about how people can get it wrong. So wrong. And be completely clueless about it. As another friend of ours is discovering.
“It’s so painful for her,” I said. “They aren’t interested in anyone’s reality but their own preconceived notions. They aren’t smart enough to understand that objective reality doesn’t exist—that perception is reality. We all view things through our own filters. But they insist on pointing their fingers at my friend, when they are equally culpable. What would YOU tell her?”
My girlfriend smiled. “I’d tell her, ‘Let them be wrong about you.’ There’s nothing to prove.”
Well, that IS the truth, isn’t it? We can explain until the cows come home and some people are not going to hear–and not going to care.
Too bad for them.
Still, it takes a strong person to not want to explain or defend. It’s human nature to want to correct what we see as a skewed view.
I stopped explaining a long time ago. I don’t have to prove anything to people who see and hear me. Who get me. Who love me. They are already there.
Those who can’t hear are unimportant. They can think what they want. They don’t matter to me. And I hope my friend can see they shouldn’t matter to her, either. Enjoy the people who love you. The rest can go their own way. So long!
So, the next time my friend and I talk about her situation, that’s what I’m going to say.
Let them be wrong about you. There’s nothing to prove.
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