Let go, let it go, let them go…and you fly!

April 22, 2022


I know this is going to help someone. I didn’t write it, but I could have. It’s attributed to Anonymous right now, since I don’t know its origin.  It’s how I live my life now and I have never been happier. So here it is:

Let go of…

the people who are not prepared to love you. Let them go. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change.

Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

When you begin to fight

for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t. mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.

If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.

That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.

The more time you spend

trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.

There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.

The more you stay involved

with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.

Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, these are people who should not be in your life.

The most valuable things you have in your life

are your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy it will define your existence.

When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious. When you spend time with people in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and should be around you, your energy is stolen.

You will begin to realize

that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only “compatible” people are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone,

for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them. If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favors you have granted. Your only obligation is to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.

Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people.

Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.

So yes, let them go. I’ve done that and never looked back. I might even do more of it in the near future.

I’d love to know your thoughts.

13 comments on “Let go, let it go, let them go…and you fly!
  1. Michele says:

    Powerful piece…. Truer words were never spoken. Unfortunately we have all experienced relationships such as these in our lives so hearing these words and paying attention to them lift our spirits and our minds to a state of gratefulness guiding us to recognize when we are wasting our time and energy. Amen!

  2. Marilyn mcdonald Siddle says:

    Very true and profound. Letting go is so very hard but necessary. I struggle with this.thanks.

  3. Susan Cooper says:

    Perfect timing. Words to head. A better practice to live by. Thank you for sharing.

  4. Laurie Stone says:

    Words of wisdom. ‘Use our time well’ seems to be the message. Don’t waste it on people or things that make us unhappy.

  5. Perfect!
    One of my favorite sayings is stop crossing rivers for people that wouldn’t jump a puddle for you!

  6. Diane says:

    Why is it that it sometimes takes years for us to see the drain some relationships are? This is a wonderful article! Thank you for sharing it!

  7. Lauren says:

    I love this! Read the book “I Love Me More” by Jenna Banks. She pretty much says this too. It’s time to let go of the people who really don’t show up for us.

  8. Janeane Davis says:

    This is great adviced. There is so much in life that people need to let go and move on from, but they do not. If they would let go of these things, their lives would be so much better.

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