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I don’t actuallly think we dictate or control our emotions. They rise and they fall of their own accord. We can try to push them away (repress them) but that tends to lead to all kinds of health problems- and we can cling onto them as an identity- but still they rise and fall like the waves on an ocean. For me, learning to greet feelings with some tenderness and mercy, neither pushing them away nor drowning in them, seems to be the best way to find some equanimity.
I’m a notorious control freak. Seriously. You’ve definitely given me something to think about, thank you, Oriah.
Saw this today, Oriah, apropos of this post and commentary:
“Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.”
A different way to think about it that’s more in tune with your thinking, which I’ve pondered quite a bit in recent days. Blessings…
Being couragous enough to move on and leave the past in the past is so freeing for the future.