Our reward is in the doing, not the equivalence

April 16, 2024

The reward for kindness is not being seen as kind,
but the electricity of giving that keeps us alive.
    ~Mark Nepo

When I read this, it hit me like a lightning bolt. It’s how I feel. Exactly.

But Nepo takes it further. He points out that “the closer we get to the core of all being, the more synonymous the effort and its reward.”

Think about that for a minute. The reward is in the doing, not what we hope to get back.

I feel that.

So many of us, me included, believe at some level that life should be “fair.” We expect justice. Or to have our kindness returned.

We reach out in love and hope to get the same back.

But that’s not how it works.

Life’s reward is all in the experience of it, the joys and the pain both.

That’s life.

It’s a reminder we could all use from time to time.

I do love Mark Nepo and his The Book of Awakening is the first thing I reach for most mornings.

2 comments on “Our reward is in the doing, not the equivalence
  1. Laurie Stone says:

    So true. Kindness feels good for its own sake.

  2. Alana says:

    I know there is a quote in the Bible that teaches we should not do our good deeds in public. I think Mark Nepo’s thinking is along the same line of thought I agree that our reward is in the doing. And life, truly, is not fair, but that should not stop us from being kind to each other.

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