Glen Ellen, Calif.
It wasn’t until I was into my 60s that I had the gift of vision. No, not a woo-woo gift, but the ability to look back over the many decades of my life and see life patterns. These are situations or themes that seem to repeat themselves. Even though no two events are exactly alike, if the umbrella theme matches up, that’s a life pattern.
It’s an amazing gift: I’m thinking maybe we should stop thinking about age as something to bemoan and instead appreciate its gifts. This is a very big one.
Of course, even as Socrates said “the unexamined life is not worth living,” those of us who have spent any time looking back and dealing with “things” know that the examined life can be hell.
I’m only a little kidding. Looking back at our book of life isn’t for the faint of heart. So why would we want to do it?
Is there a meaning to life?
Many people think we live our life, it ends and that’s that. Period, end of sentence, chapter, book. The idea that it might have some meaning other than day-to-day existence is not something they entertain.
They may not even want to entertain it.
That outlook just makes no sense to me. Our lives within vastly intricate societies didn’t just evolve without the hand of a Master. I don’t buy it. Life is too complex. And further, I don’t buy that life has no purpose.
Because I believe that we have souls that have infinite life over many incarnations, I also believe in a soul purpose. So what does that have to do with life patterns?
The warp and weave of life
Our very complex lives are planned with patterns in mind, patterns that are lessons in disguise. Identifying repeating patterns in our lives provides the opportunity to determine if these themes are positive or negative. They can be either.
Do they serve us? If so, let’s give them more energy! Let’s promote the heck out of them and look for opportunities to appreciate, use and even strengthen them.
But maybe they’re not so positive. Maybe they don’t serve us. There’s a lesson there, and it’s up to us to find it. And do something with it.
The class I’m taking requires us to do a significant amount of reflection on our own themes. And while I thought that I’d pretty much had my life under control after my own years of therapy, come to find out, I still have some things to learn.
So, what’s it all about?
If you’re interested in identifying your own patterns, get out a note book and start listing key events in your life in chronological order. Begin when you began, as early as you can remember. What are the positive and negative events you remember as having some impact? What feelings did they bring up for you?
Take some notes. And don’t do it all in an hour or a day: take a few weeks to add to your list.
I’m pretty sure you’re going to discover something about your life that you didn’t know before.
A more detailed and involved form of this exercise is part of the program I’m taking and I have to admit that I’ve had more than one AHA!!! moment as I reflected.
I’m a big proponent of therapy and have taken advantage of it more than once in my life. I was pretty sure that I’d examined all of my life in detail.
Umm, no. Not by a long shot.
Back to the gifts that come with age. If, at almost 65, I’m still discovering things about myself? Life can’t be over. If, at almost 65, I’m looking for ways to grow? Life isn’t over.
And if, in the process, I discover my soul’s purpose and achieve it? What a way for this life to be over!
Love to hear your thoughts.