She never stood a chance, little girl lost, daughter of the late Whitney Houston, gone now at only 22 years of age.
Bobbi Kristina never stood a chance.
Every time something like this happens, I wonder when Hollywood, the entertainment industry, celebrities will wake up to reality.
But they never do. Maybe they’re so venal they don’t care.
Let’s start with the beautiful and talented Whitney Houston. Oh, that powerhouse voice! Her anthems of the 1980s still stand the test of time and that voice, soaring to the heavens–perfection.
Everyone around her knew she had a drug problem. Even the public knew, thanks to exposes by the National Enquirer and that train wreck of a reality show called “Being Bobby Brown.” Whitney was only a tangential part of the show, which aired in 2005, but her small bits told the audience everything.
“Bahhbeeeee!” she’d call, obviously high on drugs, her hair askew, her movements jerky. It became a joke among viewers. “Bahbeeee!” the cry of a talented singer who was in the depths of misery.
Their daughter, Bobbi Kristina, was raised in that atmosphere. In fact, her parents smoked crack around her. Maybe worse. Their marriage was toxic.
These parents had no moral compass.
But then, Hollywood and the entertainment industry have always had trouble finding their moral compass. To smoke crack around a young girl? For shame.
Music impresario Clive Davis tried to convince Whitney Houston to get help. Repeatedly, even going so far as to stage an intervention, one of several she ignored. Here’s an excerpt from a letter Clive sent Whitney:
Whitney, our lives intertwined almost twenty years ago. You learned to trust me even when you had doubt, and professionally you soared with your God given talent and genius to all time heights. Now, I reach out personally and I ask you to trust me. I ask you to trust me in blind faith. You need help and it must begin now. I will stand by you with love and caring to see you through it to new found peace and happiness in every way as a woman, as a mother, as a role model to inspire the rest of the world. Love, Clive.
It had no effect. He’s said she was in complete denial about her drug use.
So what happened to Whitney? Why was this huge talent so troubled?
There’s plenty of evidence that Whitney was a closeted lesbian. She came up in a time when the closet door was still firmly shut for most celebrities. The closet, we know, can be suffocating.
Did having to live that lie contribute to her reliance on drugs? What is the cost of hiding who you are?
Coincidentally, Clive Davis was also pretty much in the closet at the time, coming out as bisexual only two years ago at the age of 82. Just that fact alone hints at how powerful a force the closet is.
So let’s count up the few factors we know:
Whitney was a drug addict.
Bobby was a drug addict.
They did drugs around Bobbi Kristina.
They modeled a marriage that was toxic.
Whitney never could quit drugs.
Whitney was probably living in the closet.
The stress of the closet could have contributed to her drug problem.
And now, Bobbi Kristina, dead, after being found in the bathtub, like her mother. A troubled relationship with her sort-of stepbrother/boyfriend/maybe husband.
The family asked for “privacy” during their initial time of grief.
As she lay in a hospital bed early-on, brain-dead but on life support, her father celebrated his 46th birthday with friends in a restaurant.
“It was a party atmosphere,” someone told the press. Brown was “lavished with presents.” There was a birthday cake and song.
As the family gathered at an Atlanta hotel to say what they thought were final goodbyes to Bobbi Kristina, Bobby Brown’s sister hit his cousin over the head with a bottle because he called her a crackhead.
Then, Bobby Brown decided to keep his comatose daughter alive for months, on some form of life support.
The entertainment industry has always been shallow and its moral center has always been absent. I have to wonder how many more (young) lives will be lost because of…because of what? the quest for fame? wealth? the problem of addiction? the unwise decision to have children?
All we can do is bless this poor young soul and pray that lessons will be learned.
Poor Bobbi Kristina, dead for lack of a moral compass.
She didn’t stand a chance, did she?
Rest in peace, sweet girl. Rest in peace.