What do we live for?

March 2, 2020

live-forWhat do we live for,
if it is not to make life less difficult to each other?
~George Eliot

This is how I feel.  All the drama between people is unnecessary–and wouldn’t happen if we understood what is expected by our highest and best selves.

I know people who are so stingy they squeak. They’re not just stingy with money but with compliments, validation, kind words. When I consider why that’s true, I can usually pinpoint some trauma they’ve been through, usually as a kid. Some way they, themselves, were not given to and so they don’t even know how to give. Oh, maybe they get the benefit of giving on an intellectual level.

But I’d bet dollars to donuts that they’ve never felt that warming of the heart, that frisson of love that comes from a gift they’ve given and the gifts they get may not be well-received.

My 12-year-old toy poodle is really good at love. Sometimes, for no reason at all, he’ll jump up on me and start kissing me ecstatically, joyfully, repeatedly. I call it “love-bombing.”  I can’t tell you how much his joyful act warms my heart, how hard I giggle at it and how it makes my day. And this is a rescue dog that didn’t have such a lucky first 10 years.

Taking the idea from him, I am dedicating 2020 to love bombing. Oh, don’t worry–I won’t jump up and ecstatically kiss you! But if you’re in need of something, count on me to step up. If you want an ear, I’m there. And you don’t necessarily have to ask: if I see you’re having a low day don’t be surprised to get some kind of validation from me. And for no reason at all you might get a card, a gift, a note. Or something you need. Are you fighting a health battle? Are you grieving? You’ll hear from me.

If we can make life a bit easier for someone, if that’s within our ability, why wouldn’t we? We don’t have to be rich to do that, either: kind words are free. Postage is cheap (although not as cheap as it used to be!). You get the drift. 

I want to start a kindness revolution where the only weapon is love bombs. Won’t you join me?
Don’t forget my beautiful gifts at A Healing Spirit. Candles, guided journals, affirmations are all great love bombs!



7 comments on “What do we live for?
  1. Amy says:

    I love this! I have been through a tough couple of years with health issues, financial issues, and relationship issues. Your post made my heart sing.

    For one, it is nice to hear someone actually thinking of others and wantingbto reach out. And, because I can relate to a pet’s love. Our cats are like your dog. They are so excited to see us, they jump up on us when we are sitting on the couch and nuzzle and lick and pur like we are the best ever. They are priceless and make us feel so loved when so many people have let us down.

    You are amazing. You seem to, so often, write what I feel, and provide inspiration and comfort when I need it most.

  2. Lauren says:

    I love this idea of love bombing! The world could use a little more love right now.

  3. Diane says:

    What a wonderful, beautiful idea! Let’s pass it forward!
    It’s so nice to know I have someone who has my back!

  4. Laurie says:

    A beautiful idea that is always needed! Not only to those we know, but to strangers as well!

  5. Ellen says:

    I am with you in spreading kindness!

  6. Love bombing – what a fantastic idea! I think we need more of this – kindness!!

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