Love blindness and suicide

March 27, 2014


Love’s got to stop somewhere short of suicide.

~from the book “Dodsworth”  said by a man who finally left a bad marriage

Remember those dark days of angst-filled young love, when there was nothing more important than having someone’s love, when we’d give up almost everything to have it and we believed that we’d die without it?

Yeah, I’ve got to think a while back, too. But not as far back as I wish I’d have to think.

But the quote comes to mind as Oscar Pistorius is tried for the alleged murder of his girlfriend. Who, apparently, had many hints, clues and downright strong pieces of evidence that this guy  had big-time issues.

But of course, we can see these issues but not really see them.

We don’t want to see them.

Perhaps that’s what cost Reeva Steenkamp her life. We don’t really know, because it’s a confusing case. But still, here was a woman who had so much going for her and yet she stayed too long in a relationship that turned out to be fatal.

So maybe, in a way, it does seem like suicide, this love-blindness.

And stopping short of suicide seems like a good idea, if only we can recognize where that is.


8 comments on “Love blindness and suicide
  1. Diane says:

    Oh, my goodness! That is so true! Scary true!

  2. I do remember all those days of obsessive love affairs. I for one am glad that’s over, it was exhausting and it was impossible to focus when in the midst of a love affair like that. I can’t even fathom what went on between those two, very tragic.

  3. Katherines Corner says:

    strong theme in your post today. Sure gets your attention. Thank you for sharing your blog at the Thursday Favorite Things Blog Hop xo

  4. I had a crazy boyfriend when I was young. Sometimes it’s hard to see such things when we’re hopeful and naive. Maybe she was.

    • admin says:

      Absolutely. But love blind was fatal for her. I had a violent husband, myself. I get it. But we need to see these things before it’s too late!

  5. I have a difficult time wrapping my head around what really happened. If he hadn’t had a gun, she’d be alive. I just can’t get past that. Guns are evil.

  6. Kathy says:

    Great thought provoking post. I remember an obsessive love. Thank goodness I recognized those signs and escaped.

    To think we were cheering for this man in the Olympics.

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