We both like to iron.
“Did you put a bottle of Lambert Bridge wine in my refrigerator?”
Girlfriend asked me that the other day in an early morning phone call. It was the kind of question that only a really close friend would ask. One who knew what your favorite wine was and who had been to that Dry Creek winery with you. One whose refrigerator you have access to and know well.
The rest of the conversation is personal, but it –and a recent post by a friend on service–did make me think about friendship and the things we do for our friends.
When you move 3,000 miles and don’t know a soul in your new city, the embrace of a complete stranger who then becomes a friend makes a huge difference. I remember those days of talking to gas station attendants (when there were such people AND when they actually spoke English) because I didn’t have anyone else to talk to. But once I met girlfriend, my life changed in huge ways. My entire life. Meeting Girlfriend was the single most significant thing that happened to me in California.
It’s an impact that’s hard to beat.
I’ve always loved this quote:
“There is nothing I would not do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves, it is not my nature.”
―Jane Austen in Northanger Abbey
Now, I’m not going to say that hasn’t bitten me in the butt a time or two. Sometimes, I’ve cast my pearls before swine. But not as often as I’ve cast them before royalty. Friendship royalty.
It’s funny: our society acts like love is valuable because it’s scarce, when the truth is, we have abundant access to love if we just do it. There’s plenty to go around. I love lots of people and that doesn’t dilute love–it expands it.
There’s little I wouldn’t do for a friend I loved.
But back to my beautiful friend and the wine.
How did I answer her?
“Yes, I put a bottle of Lambert Bridge in your refrigerator. Let’s booze it up when you’re done with treatment.”
I’ve never looked forward to a booze-fest as much I do this one.
So this is what I’d like to know: what’s the single most significant thing a woman friend has done for you?
Pick just one and tell us a little about it in the Comments. I’m looking forward to getting inspired just reading about it!