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I still believe in my chances–the ability to do certain things, to find that rainbow. A new chapter is always there, we just need the strength to turn that page.
It’s my nature, too. My favorite medium has said to me before, in frustration, “But, Carol, that’s who you are! You are all about reconciliation!” (I love you, Hollister…)
I guess it depends on the person and the situation. Some things are just unforgivable but others are really just intolerant and sometimes it’s hard to figure out which one it is. We have to take ourselves out of it completely to get a clear objective.
Yes, the distinctions can be fuzzy
It takes too much energy to hold a grudge. If they’re truly out the door, then I don’t see them anymore. But constant fighting or debating is debilitating.
Oh I completely agree, Laur.
I remember my friend, Bev saying, “I give chance after chance. Until I look in the mirror and see footprints on my face. Then I’m done.”
Yep. At some time you have to STOP giving chances and just get off the train track!
Oh now that is vivid. So much so.
Are there ever too many chances? It’s hard, many times, to untangle “was it me” or “was it you” in a situation. But, more recently, I wondered if there is such a thing as too many chances. Would I bring a person who expressed hate (not respectful disagreement, but hate) against who I am and my core beliefs back into my life if he or she proved she had overcome that and was working to promote the good, for example? I don’t have an answer yet. You always make me think.
I make myself think, too. It’s not a bad thing. But it’s not an easy thing.