Now that the barn has burned down

May 27, 2017

Now that the barn has burned down
I can see the moon.
~Persian proverb

We’re supposed to find the blessings in the things that happen to us–even the hardest, most awful things. The most painful. The most traumatic.

And that can be hard.

It’s also true that the people who emerge stronger for their ordeals are the ones who can find that elusive positive in the worst of circumstances.

I think now of Malala, the young Pakistani activist and Nobel laureate. Shot by the Taliban and badly injured, she emerged to inspire the world.

But that kind of courage and inspiration is also found in every day people. Men and women who face hardships of any kind, great losses and health challenges and are able to access the positive outcomes of these awful situations. Perhaps they won’t win a Nobel prize, but they may emerge with more compassion or helping those around them find compassion, with the ability to inspire and change lives of friends and family or with a deeper appreciation for giving and receiving love.

Have you lost a child and reached out to help another parent in pain over their own loss? I can name three mothers I know who have done that, even in their own pain.

Have you reached out to those around you who are elderly and lonely? Or housebound and alone? I know several people who are sick and yet still reach out to others.

Do you use your talents to help others who also suffer, as my friend, Cathy does with her writing about M.S.?

Have you learned to receive the gifts of time, meals and company that others give you?

There’s no end to the way that those of us who face great challenges can inspire others, even if we don’t know it.

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4 comments on “Now that the barn has burned down
  1. You are absolutely right, Carol. We will all face adversity at some point in our lives. That’s when we face ourselves, when we have an opportunity to choose how we’ll survive.That crucial moment is when we must take that next baby step forward. And another. And another. And then life will go on again.

  2. Haralee says:

    Some can some can not! Challenges or adversity is a personal issue. One person’s trauma is another person’s hiccup. I marvel at the generosity and humanity of some!

  3. There are so many tragic things that people go through in life. This sounds like a great service.

  4. Debbie says:

    I love this quote. It says so much and I enjoyed your post immensely ????

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