Sandy: no coincidence

May 10, 2015

My mother in 1949

And everywhere I go
There you will find

So the other day I was driving down Highway 17 toward the Los Gatos hills, thinking about my mother. It was the day of my post on Nepal, THIS one, and I was thinking about how we would have talked about what was going on there and what she would have said. But I wasn’t too lost in my thoughts not to be startled when this old song by Larry Hall came up on Sirius 50s on 50, a station I listen to all the time. The song is Sandy and that was my mother’s nickname. (Her full name was Santa Maria Aida…)

As the song played, I enjoyed reminiscing about my late mother, who passed away in 1999.  And then, when the song was over, it was immediately followed by Ben E. King’s Stand By Me, a song mentioned in my Nepal post and from which the post title was taken.  When it began to play, I was not too far away from La Hacienda in Los Gatos, a place my mother rented when she visited me for several summers in the mid-90s. I don’t head that way too often, but this day, that’s where I was going.

Some would say these were coincidences. Me? Nope. It was no coincidence. What I got from it was the message that she sees what happens here, and that day she was telling me she saw and appreciated my efforts to help Nepal.

Happy Mother’s Day, mom.

How about you? If your mom has also passed, has anything like this ever happened to you?

7 comments on “Sandy: no coincidence
  1. Theresa Wiza says:

    I absolutely believe that our departed loved ones reach out to us from the afterlife and I agree with you that those song choices were no coincidence. I plan on visiting my loved ones when I depart, too, though I’ve been told by one of my grandchildren not to visit her – actually the way she put it (she’s 10) was, “Grandma please don’t haunt me when you die.” 🙂

  2. Diane says:

    I so agree. They are with us. And they let us know. I’ve suddenly felt like I want to turn around and tell her something. Like she’s right there, waiting for my comment. It’s a sweet feeling!

  3. Laurel Regan says:

    This is so beautiful, Carol. What a lovely experience – thank you for sharing.

  4. Mina Joshi says:

    Sounds like you have a very strong connection to your mum and she was trying to let you know that she was fine and with you in spirit.

  5. One tiny nudge from Mom. Significant from Dad. And from my brothers – each sent one profound “Hey Sis.”

  6. I hope that when mom’s time comes we have that kind of connection. The post on Nepal was one of the most beautiful things I ever witnessed and moved me more than any post I have ever read. I haven’t been able to get it out of my mind since. It deserves some type of award for sure.

  7. Lana says:

    I love the connection you still have with your mother – very powerful.

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