What I no longer have time for

July 6, 2022

no-longer-have-timeThe realization that I am pretty far down the timeline of my life has hit me hard in recent years. Of course, when your best friend is 92, the view changes a little: you do wonder if maybe you have more time than. you think you have.

But having more in the rear view mirror than the windshield does offer the opportunity for life change and here’s what I now have no time for:

War and violence. But then again, I never have had time for them.

Chasing people down. If I’ve reached out a number of times and you aren’t interested in responding–or taking the initiative to reach out to me, it’s obvious you’re not as interested in me as I am in. you. And that provides clarity. So, no, I don’t have time for you.

Passive-aggression. If you’re indirect about your needs or behave passive aggressively, I’ve moved on.

People without a sense of humor. If you can’t laugh at yourself and don’t have a sense of the ridiculous? We got nothing .

Science-deniers. If you think you can prevent or fight Covid by drinking your own urine, taking horse dewormer or any other substance with no true science behind it, your time with me is up.

Trump supporters. Yeah, I get that you wouldn’t have him for a friend but if you don’t think he is a destructive force in our country my time with you is limited. Same with Ron DeSantis. These men are not conservatives, they are power hungry, opportunistic demons.

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16 comments on “What I no longer have time for
  1. Love this list, Carol! For me, chasing people down is at the top of it. I must say though, its hard to realize the ” you’re not as interested in me as I am in” aspect of it, however, it happens. We aren’t everyone’s cup of tea all the time. (Some) friendships have a life expectancy and they need to be let go. Makes room for better ones down the road!

    • Yes, those are such wise words, Ryder.

    • Lynda Beth Unkeless says:

      I agree with Ryder.

      This is a wonderful list,


      If the January 6 hearings haven’t persuaded a person that Trump is
      beyond Bad News…well…ugh.

      It’s hard to accept when people
      are not interested in me.

      But the silver lining is that I can use my time more wisely, or with people who are!

  2. Mona Andrei says:

    Awesome list! Isn’t it funny how clarity becomes shinier with each turn around the sun?

  3. Amy Colgan-Niemeyer says:

    Thank you for this post. We think a lot alike. I have done a lit of soul search in the last few years. I’ve learned so much about myself and what I welcome in my life, will tolerate and what I need to let go of. Take care.

  4. Shari says:

    I couldn’t agree more! Well said. The only problem is when your MIL meets a few of those . . .

  5. Adeal says:

    I decided to call this stage of my life “The 4th Quarter.” The games not quite over yet. These final moments count. They count a lot. No sense in wasting them.

    Good list. I’ll add, “I’m not wasting any more time on weight-loss diets.” My energy and focus is better spent elsewhere.

  6. Laurie Stone says:

    I don’t understand how anyone could be a Trump supporter and know several intelligent people who love him. That’s a huge communication gap for me. I’m not sure I could ever be close to them.

  7. Alana says:

    As time grows short for us, we certainly get focused. I’ve made some different decisions in a couple of cases; my 90 year old friend watches Fox News, for example. But I’ve also known her for over 50 years. I’ve decided staying in touch with her (she lives 150 miles from me) from time to time works. We also enjoyed an afternoon visit with her back in the spring. I enjoy having her in my life and she doesn’t try to talk politics with me. This wouldn’t be for everyone, but I value the years I knew her before…well, the before time.

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