Don’t let toxic masculinity (and CTE) destroy your sons

May 31, 2023
An impactful piece on chronic traumatic encephalopathy or CTE in the Washington Post* broke my heart. CTE is a fatal brain disease associated with repeated traumatic brain injuries, such as concussions and/or repeated blows to the head. It's a progressive condition seen in athletes who take...

How to make my favorite easy Maui salad

April 25, 2023
As warmer weather approaches, we begin to appreciate meals that are not only good for us, but refreshing. Here's the easy recipe for my favorite Maui salad --...

Best! Ride! Ever!

April 21, 2023
We were in D.C. with our nephews, who'd called for a ride to take us out for the evening. There were five of us, requiring a big SUV. One pulled up. As I climbed...

How we’ve failed to meet the promise

April 18, 2023
While visiting my nephews in Washington, DC I visited the new-ish Martin Luther King, Jr. Memorial. I wanted to to remember an ex-boyfriend, now dead, who was the...

Should I delay taking social Security or take it early?

April 11, 2023
I know plenty of people who decided they were tired of working and took Social Security as soon as they were eligible--age 62. But is it the smartest...

What do you say to someone about their loss

April 7, 2023
My sweet girlfriend died. Suddenly. Without warning. She just up and left. And I, who am all too familiar with grief, taken by surprise, found myself saying to her...

The power of discernment in friendship

April 5, 2023
The subject of discernment AND friendship keeps coming up for me and today, I realized that the two words are related. I've always prided myself on having a wide...

“We’ve gone as far as we can go…”

March 30, 2023
"We've gone as far as we can go on gun laws.  Thoughts and prayers:" Covenant School Thurston High School Columbine High School Heritage High School Deming...

It may look easy, but it’s still heavy

March 29, 2023
Just because someone carries it well doesn't mean it's not heavy. Well, I sure do have a lot to say about this. I've always been one of those people who looks...

How about a visit to the virtual soda fountain?

March 27, 2023
Yes, a soda fountain. Do you remember them? I do remember real soda fountains and if you're my age, you do, too. They exude the innocence of our youth, which I...

If only we could freeze frame moments in time

March 22, 2023
Have you ever had a moment in time that was so special, you wished you could freeze frame it and revisit that moment over and over? Yeah, me, too. We're getting...

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