Why play small?

June 19, 2017

play-smallI still know people who limit themselves. That’s right. they’re playing smaller than they are meant to. Why do you think that is? I think I know.

They play small because they’re afraid to step into their power.

Women have done this more often than men, historically, but I know men who do it, too. Even young men. And I’ve heard all the rationales you can think of, the reasons, the justifications, the excuses.

But what it really boils down to is that they’re afraid to be who they’re meant to be. They’re the ones who, at the end of their lives,  say “should’ve, would’ve, could’ve.”

Fear is a dream killer.

So give yourself permission now to be who you’re meant to be. To play as big as you can. It’s ok to shine. You’re meant to.

Don’t let fear stand in your way. Don’t play small. Take that big step into who you’re meant to be.

It’s the one thing you’ll never regret.








36 comments on “Why play small?
  1. Klaudia says:

    What a wonderful post ❤ Yes, we need to make the most of this life, we’ll get no second chanceor plan B. If only people understood! I rather fail, but tried …than ending up ‘I should have’ …

  2. Tam Warner Minton says:

    Fear is a dream killer, and holds us back, I agree. I try to keep it away, and to let it go.

  3. Barbara says:

    I love this! I’m sharing it, too.

  4. Robin rue says:

    I am one of those small players. I like to be comfortable in my little bubble over here 😉

  5. Lana says:

    I’m working on it – every day! I know I have so much more potential. Thanks for the reminder Carol!

  6. Hi Carol! I try to remind myself of this every single day. It always reminds me of the Marianne Williamson quote that goes, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” Thanks for reminding me of it! ~Kathy

  7. You have to dream big to live big. If you only ever dream small, you will only ever live small.

  8. What a beautiful reminder to us all, Carol! And sometimes, stepping into our power means saying no to all the B.S. that can suck our souls dry (or at least eat up and days and our joy). When we let the crap go, it opens up time, space and energy for the good/better/best stuff!

  9. Lee Gaitan says:

    YES and shared!

  10. Helene says:

    A good reminder to take a chance and put our fear on hold. We don’t know what we’re capable of unless we push ourselves to do more.

  11. Cassie says:

    I absolutely love this message and think it is so important – thanks for the tuesday morning pick me up xx

  12. Kim says:

    Ah I love this optimistic post! Fear certainly is a dream killer.. This was such a much needed read for today 🙂

  13. Tara Pittman says:

    I do let fear get in the way along with doubt. I daily doubt that I can do things. Time to shut that voice down.

  14. Natalie says:

    I definitely play small and often limit myself to my comfort zone. I need to work on this!

  15. I think some people are just less likely to chase dreams. I actually no people who will say they don’t have any dreams. It’s all about ambition!

  16. Fear of success is huge with both men and women. I say go for it and live large.

  17. I love this! No one should live a small life out of fear. Fear is not only a dream killer but it’s responsible for so much of what’s wrong with our country right now.

  18. Thank you for this! I need to pay less attention to voices of fear and more attention to voices of inspiration!

  19. Neha Saini says:

    Its really important to open yourself and be the actual you want to be. Stop thinking and permit yourself to be who you’re meant to be. To play as big as you can. then you’ll enjoy the life at its best.

  20. blair villanueva says:

    Very inspiring post. Never let our fears stop us to fly. Better to try and we fail, rather than not trying at all.

  21. Czjai says:

    Big truth! You can never achieve anything or go anywhere if you let fear hold you back!

  22. Jason says:

    It just ignited the power in me. Very inspiring post. Thank you for sharing.

  23. Claudia Krusch says:

    I try to push myself to take chances. It is important to go outside of your comfort zone and try new things. You never know what you can accomplish until you try.

  24. Scott says:

    Everyone should be a little risk-adverse. But you have to take some risk in order to be rewarded!

  25. JenNY T says:

    I am in my late 40’s and still trying to find my power and my confidence. I don’t know where I will find it, but I feel like I am ready to do something big.

  26. Nadalie says:

    Fear is such a dream killer!

    The fear is so real though, it’s the doing it anyways that really gets you going. Be afraid, but do it anyways. We’re all afraid, just some have learned to act with it. Ya know?

    – Nadalie

  27. Wendy Polisi says:

    Fear is limited! We should never let our fear take us over so that we fall into that limited frame of mind.

  28. I have always been a fearless individual. Being independent since I was 19, I learned to fight for my own and always dream big and take higher steps forward. I started small, but I have always wanted to conquer a bigger world outside of my own.

  29. Julie Syl says:

    It’s worth sharing article! I love the topic I enjoyed reading it!

  30. kelly reci says:

    Never let your fear stops you for your goals! I learned that from my experience!

  31. Clint says:

    Work hard at what you want to do and be sure you are doing what you love. It can become something amazing.

  32. It’s so darned scary to step outside of our comfort zones, isn’t it? When I think about the times I’ve done it though, the results have all been positive! Great post!

  33. Adaleta says:

    Always read for the stars, go for gold and dream as big as you can!!

  34. Elizabeth o says:

    Sadly, women have a tendency to play small and drag each other down. We need to champion each other more and leave the petty stuff outside.

  35. Yes!! Fear IS a dream killer! I need to tell myself this more. I’m afraid to do fun things, quit my job, start a business, travel, etc, because of fear.

  36. Alayna says:

    Great advice! Never be afraid of being your true self!

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