Real romance is made up of tiny, everyday acts of love

June 24, 2013

peach daisyThere are probably women who don’t like romantic gestures, but I can’t name a single one. It doesn’t even matter what the gesture is, either.

That flower he brings when comes home from work, even if he cuts it from the yard.  Doing the dishes when it’s not his turn. A surprise night out. Tickets for a performance your partner knows you’ve been dying to see. A book.  A little piece of meaningful jewelry. Any small memento at all will do or no memento at all–just doing something nice for a spouse.

Those thoughtful little acts of love have a value beyond their face: they say “you’re worth it.”  And “I’m thinking about you.”

I’ve known men who had a million excuses for not making the gesture: money, time,  not knowing what we like.  It’s all bullshit.

The real message is “You’re not worth going out of my way for.”

I love making those gestures in return, too. Surprising the man I love with something I know he’d enjoy is one of my great pleasures in life.

But don’t get me wrong: I never cast my pearls before swine very long. If I didn’t have the same share of  mind with him, I was gone.

A great romance always includes tiny, everyday acts of love.

What’s the most wonderful thing a partner ever did for you? Inquiring minds want to know.


6 comments on “Real romance is made up of tiny, everyday acts of love
  1. I remember my dad would occasionally find a perfect rose growing in our yard and bring it inside for my mom. It was such a tiny thing, but so incredibly romantic. They’ve been married 56 years and still adore each other.

  2. Janie Emaus says:

    Hi – This wasn’t actually small. My husband surprised me with tickets to Hawaii for our 9th anniversary. He sabotaged my lunch hour with friends (or so I thought) read me a poem and off we went to Hawaii the next morning.

  3. Amy Morgan says:

    Mine still opens my car door for me after 30 years of marriage. 🙂

  4. Susan Cooper says:

    Gosh, I’m lucky. He surprises me all the time with little things that always make me smile. A simple card that said how much I mean to him everyday is the one I remember the most. These matter and should go both ways. I do try to do them too.

  5. admin says:

    So beautiful, that perfect rose. That, to me, is the epitome of the small, meaningful gesture of love. Janie, that whole sabotage and poem thing? Swoon! Amy, what a lovely reminder of chivalry and love. And Susan, you’re right, it goes both ways. Thanks so much for sharing these, they warmed my heart today!

  6. Ellen Dolgen says:

    So true, Carol! When my husband of 36 years randomly brings me still melts my heart and makes me want to dance!

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