When people think you are strong & resilient

March 29, 2022

resilientWhen people think you are strong and resilient, it usually means you are.

But what comes with that is also the belief that you are not at all vulnerable. That you do not have your weak moments. That you do not need support. A helping hand. That you can manage quite well on your own.

Well, hey, the truth is, even if we can manage very well on our own, like Barbra Streisand sang, we are “people who need people.” At least from time to time.

So it’s true. I am strong and resilient. I have lived on my own skills and emotional resources for a long time. With credit, of course, to my fabulous husband and a few good friends over the years. But for the most part, I’m the one who is there for others.

I am not usually the person others are there for.

The truth is that people close to me often fail to see the times I need more than they give.

Think about the people in your life who you know are strong and independent. And also consider that they are human, just like you. And that we all need the quiet hand of another. To have our loved ones ‘be there’ for us.

Even when it seems we don’t. That we are resilient enough to manage alone.

Reach out to them. A call. An email. A card. A pretty basket of spring flowers. Even a visit if safe to do so.

How can you be there for another this week?
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6 comments on “When people think you are strong & resilient
  1. Charlene says:

    I love this truth speak ?

  2. Diane says:

    I’ll never forget the time the ‘strong’ woman in my circle completely broke down. Completely. As in ‘needing someone to sit with her during the day while her husby was at work’. It was shocking and eye-opening. But you are SO right. Even strong, resilient people sometimes need a strong resilient person. I will keep my eyes open! Thank you for this!

  3. Laurie Stone says:

    I don’t think anyone is quite what they seem. I’ve encountered that many times.

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