There is beauty in every stage of life.
Well, look. We can’t stop the aging process, no matter how we try. It’s a natural process and if we’re lucky, we get to go all the way through it.
Oh, sure, we can nip and tuck and tighten and peel, but the fact is we will age. That is the fact. Resistance to the realities of aging gets us nowhere.
And along with aging comes certain…limitations. Limitations that we don’t like. And sometimes resist. If we’ve led an active life, we are used to doing things the way we’ve always done them. So when aging creeps up, it can be hard for some of us to cope with the changes that become necessary.
What do you mean, I can’t run 10 miles a day on my aging hips?
Why should I slow my pace to avoid joint stress, not to mention trips and falls?
What? I can’t walk two miles round trip to Trader Joe’s with heavy grocery bags any longer?
We may be 70. Or 80. or even 90. But in our mind, we’re younger. Much younger. That is true, isn’t it? I know it is for me.
And any adaptations to the new realities of aging can feel like losses. Like capitulating to age. And if we are stubbornly independent, we can be guilty of willful resistance to aging.
Well, aging is gonna happen (if we’re lucky), whether we capitulate or not. So I like to think of it as adapting to the new reality. Which is something we’ve had to do at every stage of our lives.We can still lead full lives. It’s just that now our options are different.
But that doesn’t mean we must become shut-ins. We just need to find new ways to do most of what we’ve always done.
For example, driving. Maybe, like many seniors, our night vision isn’t what it was. So–limit night driving. Don’t drive freeways at night. Or don’t drive at all–ask a friend to drive. Take public transportation if it is available.
Shopping and carrying bags might be another issue. Thank goodness for shopping and delivery services like Instacart and Shipt. We have so many options at our disposal today. Many stores offer their own delivery services, too. There’s no sin to making it easier on our aging selves. Heck, we started using Instacart during the pandemic and still use it periodically if we don’t have time to go to the store.
Exercise doesn’t have to be done at a pounding, driving pace. We can walk more slowly. Do gentle yoga. Ride a stationary bicycle. Do movements that put less stress on our bodies. We don’t have to do hot yoga or contort our bodies. We can do the many more gentle forms of exercise.
Finding new ways to do things we’re used to doing is not a loss, it’s simply an accommodation to our new reality. We can still lead very full lives.
And to be honest? I’d rather do that than not be here at all.
How about you? Have you found new ways to adapt to aging? Love to hear about it in the Comments below.
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