Doing the right thing

March 20, 2018

right-thingHow do we make decisions? Do we always do the right thing, on matters big and small?

For example, did you find a dollar on the floor at the gym? What did you do?

How about $5? Did you do anything different?

How about a nice watch or ring on the street?

Is it ok to laugh at a sexist joke?  What about telling a friend that their partner is cheating? Yes, some of these aren’t as easy as they might seem.

We make small moral decisions every day. But is there any distinction between large and small moral decisions?  I’m not sure there is. Doing the right thing on small issues is good practice for the bigger ones. When more is at stake. In a way it programs you so that when a bigger moral dilemma comes up, it isn’t a dilemma at all. You just do the right thing automatically.

If you do the right thing on small things it’s second nature to do the right thing on bigger ones. It becomes a part of your DNA. It becomes  who you are.

Have you faced a large or small moral dilemma that you’d like to share? What did you do?



25 comments on “Doing the right thing
  1. robin rue says:

    Doing the right thing isn’t always easy, but it always feels good. It’s a lesson I am trying to teach my kids, too.

  2. candy says:

    Let us all hope we will do the right thing all the time. No matter how big the dollar amount or how shiny and big the watch or ring you might find. There are good people in the world.

  3. Amber Myers says:

    I always try to do the right thing, and I teach my kids to do the same. I tell them that sometimes it’s easier to do the WRONG thing, but then you’ll have to deal with the guilt afterwards so it’s not worth it.

  4. Alli Smith says:

    I try to always do the right thing. I think it’s important to teach kids to do the right thing by precept and example.

  5. Heather says:

    Yes, I always think about how I would feel if I had lost my x y or z. It’s a little more difficult to find the owner of a lost dollar though!

  6. Angelic Sinova says:

    It’s sad that doing the right things is sometimes second nature to people. I believe in karma, and if even do good things, good things will in turn come to us.

  7. Shari says:

    Doing the right thing, even when no one is looking and no one will know. That’s what being an ethical person is about.

  8. Haralee says:

    I have come across a wallet or a phone or a checkbook in the grocery store at least a dozen times! The gratitude when I have been able to find the person, usually frantic,makes any indecision to not do the right thing not comparable.

  9. Jennifer says:

    I just went through this. My husband and I had a monthly massage plan and last month I canceled it and asked if we had any massages left because I knew my husband should have had one more because he missed a month previously. I was told I had 4 and my husband had 5. While that sounded great, it didn’t sit right with me. I knew something was wrong because I never missed a month of massage so having 4 left didn’t sound right. And I couldn’t just take them, I called the studio and asked them to review my account because I didn’t want to cheat them out of any massages. I was right. My husband had 1 left and I had none. Because of my honesty, they gave me a credit towards 1 massage. If I’d said nothing (which I know there are people out there who wouldn’t have,) it would have eaten away at me and I could never have enjoyed any of those massages anyway, but getting a free massage because I did the right thing makes me feel good. I will really enjoy that one.

  10. Barbara says:

    Whenever I’ve found a small amount of money that you obviously couldn’t trace I donate it to a street vendor or some organization collecting donations. With social media so much in our lives now, if I found a piece of jewelry or something that might be important to the person who lost it I would post it on social media and hope it could be returned.

  11. JEanette says:

    Doing the right thing is not always cut and dry and it is not always easy to do. I would like to think that I do the right thing all the time, but I am sure there are times that I have not.

  12. Kelly Reci says:

    It’s always important to stop and think about what we’ll do next. Doing the right thing may not always seem super beneficial, but we have to think of selfless acts!

  13. I always try to do the right thing. One of my favorite quotes is “it’s not what your do when people are looking that defines your character. It’s what you do when no one is there.

  14. It’s always best to do the right thing? It may not be the easiest, but it’s right.

  15. Dawn Haskin says:

    A few months back while taking a morning walk, I noticed a young man acting oddly. I watched as he walked across the street and crouched low below a window of a home nearby. I couldn’t see what he was doing, but it was obvious he didn’t want to be seen. I photographed his car and license plate and acted as though I was taking a picture of the nearby tree foliage. I continued on my walk and when a approached this same house at the end of the walk, I peered to see if I could figure out what he’d been doing and saw a cell phone plugged into a patio outlet and the phone sitting next to a plant on a table. Hmm?
    I knocked on the door of the home and asked the homeowner if she was aware that someone was using her electricity to charge a phone. She did not. I took her phone number and texted her the car information. She called the police. Later in the day when the cell phone owner returned, she saw him approaching and let him know that his phone was safe at the nearest police station and he could retrieve it, no questions asked. The “kid” was rather sheepish at this point and left.
    When you see something out of place – – you need to act. My old self may not have noticed the behavior and/or may not have said anything. But using someone’s property, no matter how small, is not acceptable. The homeowner was so appreciative to know that neighbors watch out for one another.

  16. Making the right decision is important. While doing the right thing can sometimes be more challenging, it’s always best to make the right choices. I’m trying to teach this to my kids.

  17. Amanda says:

    I think everyone struggles with right from wrong, and now that our country is in such turmoil, I hope it inspires more people to speak up and do right. One voice can protect so many others.

  18. Sara Welch says:

    My dad always used to say, practice how you’ll play. Now, this was for sports but I think it makes sense for anything in life.

  19. Alison Rost says:

    This is such a good reminder for all of us to think about the decisions that we make everyday, whether it’s big or small. I think it’s really important that we learn how to do the right thing. I agree with you completely, if you start with the smaller things, you’ll eventually learn how to do the right thing when it comes to bigger issues/situations.

  20. Wildish Jess says:

    I totally get what you’re saying. $5 I probably would just look around to see if anyone was looking for it then pocket it. A ring, I would definitely turn in though!

  21. Sometimes its is so easy to say that we need to do the right thing but most of the time we have to consider so many things before deciding. And yes it is not easy.

  22. Tomi c says:

    Doing the right thing isn’t always so cut and dry. Their are repercussions for every action good or bad. Which is why it’s so important to carefully weight out all decisions.

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