Riding bareback

June 30, 2014

I like to do stuff that really gets my heart beating.

No, I don’t kayak the ocean or climb big mountains. Put my life at risk.

You think I’m crazy?

Not my thing.

I like to step out in life. You know, take chances.

Calculated risks.

Hey, if you don’t think it was a huge risk to move to California in 1984, a place where I knew no one and had no job?

Well, you’d be mistaken. But I took a chance.

Overall, it was a good move.

At the time, though, it looked like it could be a dumb one.

And it was a bigger risk than you might think to reconcile with a man 26 years after our divorce.

Now THAT got my heart beating. Definitely didn’t have a saddle for that.

But here’s the thing:

Life is pretty forgiving of most screw-ups, as long as you pick the risk carefully.

Here’s my test: I ask myself, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?”

And if it’s tolerable?

I’ll ride that wild horse all the way to the end.

It’s a test that’s always worked for me. I highly recommend it.

43 comments on “Riding bareback
  1. I am trying to be more like this, stepping out of my comfort zone more and more.

  2. Ryder Ziebarth says:

    At this age, I think, “What do I REALLY have to lose?” and I find myself doing more and more things I won’t have done years ago, when perhaps my bladder would have held up better!

  3. penpen says:

    Keeping that bareback rider image in mind. If not now, when do we/I step out of the comfort zone and try something new, different and possibly rewarding. Thanks for the Monday morning pick-me-up, inspiration for the week.

  4. A great philosophy. I often wonder what happened to get you and your ex to reconcile after so long…..that’s a story unto itself, I’m sure.

  5. kim tackett says:

    My daughter taught me the same mantra (what’s the worst thing that could happen?)…also, partnered with “what’s the best thing that could happen?” I use it all the time. Also, kind of love the idea of any risk being analogous to riding without a saddle. Thanks for the Monday morning motivation.

  6. Haralee says:

    A great inner voice to have. I love the picture and image in my mind.

  7. I like asking the questions, “What’s the worst that could happen?” because it gets me to be aware of my fear and then assess that fear.

    After a series of setbacks in my 20s, I left the life I had and resettled in Japan. Turned out to be such a year of growth. Like you, I’m so glad I’ve learned to take calculated risks.

  8. I like how you roll Carol! Everyone’s comfort zone is a matter of degrees isn’t it?

  9. You’re spot-on with this! What’s the worst that could happen… seriously? (Unless, of course, you ARE talking about kayaking the ocean.) ๐Ÿ˜€ I love the “bareback” imagery. I’ll keep that in mind as I continue to strive to challenge myself more, do the things that scare me. Thank you for the inspiration!

  10. I would like to be more of a risk taker. It’s just not in my DNA.

  11. I wish I could be that brave. I worry about everything and I do mean eveything! I am ready for a change I just haven’t figured it out yet!

    • My mom was a world-class worrier and I have some of her neuroses. But she was all about “all the reasons why NOT” and I swore I’d be about “all the reasons WHY”. I’ve been true to that, too. Even as a neurotic~!

  12. Lana says:

    Something I am working on every day. Thanks for the inspiration!

  13. Ellen Dolgen says:

    Love your philosophy! Gotta keep stepping over the line to dance the dance of life!

  14. Diane says:

    Love this analogy! Sure works for me!

  15. Love this post! I am so impressed that you reconciled and had the courage to take that chance. You are a woman of strength…a role model for us all!

  16. Helene Cohen Bludman says:

    When you fall off a horse, get back in the saddle. Or if you’re really adventurous, go bareback. Love it!

  17. Boy do I want to hear more about this reconciliation with your ex. Fascinating!

  18. Crystal says:

    Always taking risks. Some pay off, others well.. learning experiences. ๐Ÿ™‚ Great post!

  19. Love your attitude, you cowgirl, you!

  20. Oh yes! I’m riding bareback right there beside you!

  21. Estelle says:

    Love that philosophy. For some reason the song “Riders through the Storm” from the Doors popped into my mind. Maybe it was the horse reference:)

  22. Janie Emaus says:

    But you really should try kayaking!

  23. I’m not much of a risk taker with physical challenges, Carol, but emotionally I take a lot of risks. And I’m happy to report that they pay off!

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