Blessing same sex marriages IS a big deal

January 12, 2024

same-sexThe Pope has decreed that Roman Catholic clergy may bless same-sex unions … but maintains that as far as the Roman Catholic church is concerned, marriage is between a man and a woman.

Oh, the snark that ensued.

A pastor I respect said pointedly that same sex marriages do not need the blessing of the Pope.

Others felt the Pope had not gone far enough.

These people have missed the significance of this proclamation.

No, same-sex couples do not need the Pope’s blessing. But many who are Catholic believers have found meaning in this proclamation. If you’re wondering how gay people could also be Catholic believers, join the club. But some are, and for those people, it is a meaningful act. And symbolic.

And sure, it would’ve been logical if the Pope had simply sanctioned all marriages as valid in the eyes of the Church. But that is not how the church moves. Like a big ship, this institution changes direction very slowly and with difficulty. Centuries of repressive history tell us that it’s not going to suddenly become a bastion of liberal spirituality.

If you listen closely, you can hear the Church creaking as Pope Francis attempts to move closer into this century.

I’m not sure it will get there before it becomes completely irrelevant.

Some American bishops do not approve of the Pope’s action. To that I say, “so what?” These are likely some of the same bishops who covered up sexual abuse. It’s hard to respect a group that so clearly has damaged some of its faithful. But of course, to believers, this disapproval is painful.

The Church is becoming less relevant to its flock than ever. Although I was born and baptized Catholic, the Church never had any impact on me at all. I do not think of myself as a Roman Catholic. I do love the nostalgia and history of the ritual, especially in my favorite church, Santa Maria Maggiore in Rome. But it’s not my spiritual connection.

Pope Francis is an old man who is trying hard to move the Church closer to our world’s reality before he dies and his office passes to someone else. Probably someone far more repressive, because that is the way the world is going. Sadly.

I think we should appreciate his significant attempts to shift the institution into reality.

He should be lauded.
Grief is a bitch, it really is. And it must be processed. Helpful tools here.

8 comments on “Blessing same sex marriages IS a big deal
  1. I agree. It’s an imperfect proclamation but it’s spoken in a better direction.

  2. Alana says:

    It’s progress. Slow, but progress. As it happens, I got a thank you card yesterday from two brides whose wedding I attended last June. They were married in a civil ceremony by a minister. Even 15 years ago, this would have been impossible. Maybe one day the Catholic church will catch up.

  3. Laurie Stone says:

    At least he’s taken it further than past popes.

  4. Kathy says:

    This week though Pope made comments about surrogacy! I was shocked and appalled! A backwards step in my opinion!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *


Follow Carol


Here you’ll find my blog, some of my essays, published writing, and my solo performances. There’s also a link to my Etsy shop for healing and grief tools offered through A Healing Spirit.


I love comments, so if something resonates with you in any way, don’t hesitate to leave a comment on my blog. Thank you for stopping by–oh, and why not subscribe so you don’t miss a single post?


Subscribe to my Blog

Receive notifications of my new blog posts directly to your email.