Karma may have seen it coming, but did you?
I’ve had to ask myself that question a time or two. Or three, for that matter. Because, oh, how easy it is to blind ourselves to outcomes and consequences that everyone else sees coming. Including, but not limited to, Karma.
When these things actually happen, we act all surprised. But how surprised are we really? Our friends are usually not surprised at all. “I saw it coming,” they tell us.
Later, I’ll ask myself, what was I thinking? The answer is usually, I wasn’t.
I had a really great therapist years ago who taught me the wisdom of predicting an outcome of a difficult situation before entering it.
For years I would work myself into a tizzy about entering the viper’s pit that my family could be–well, not my entire family, just one particular member, who enjoyed targeting me with outbursts of nastiness. I always felt so blindsided, not to mention hurt.
But when my therapist and I unpacked it in session, I saw that it had been the same way for years. Since it was always the same, why didn’t I see it coming and prepare?
After that, we would always talk through a situation like this beforehand and predict what would happen and how I could respond. I’ll have to admit that it didn’t completely assuage the distress this kind of ugly family behavior caused, but it did help me handle it more effectively.
These days I don’t have to worry about it, since I’m completely out of that situation and happy to be so.
But there are always going to be things that take us by surprise, but wouldn’t, if we paid attention. Because many things that happen in life are predictable. We just have to be attentive enough to see them.
How about you? Do you see it coming? Or, like me, are you usually blindsided by the inevitable?