Near Siracusa, Sicily
Life is a long, winding road and as much as we plan, we really can’t know for sure what’s around the bend. One of the gifts of age is that a lot of the road now lays behind us, and with that experience, comes learning. So I’ll share some of my lessons from the second half of life.
1. You can’t always get what you want.
We’re taught to create our lives and that if we work hard enough, all our dreams come true. We can do or be anything we want, we’re taught. Anything.
But the Rolling Stones were right: you can’t always get what you want. Oh, I didn’t believe this for the longest time. Until the first time I didn’t get what I wanted.
But the Stones knew there was a corollary to that:
2. You always get what you need.
Well, yeah, we might not THINK we need what we get. We might not even want it. But the Divine has its reasons and always gives us what we need, even if we don’t understand it. Which is why…
3. It’s wise to look for the lesson.
No one deserves the bad stuff. But. Bad things happen to good people all the time. This has been the hardest thing for me to accept.
There has to be a lesson there, one that we’re meant to learn. And/or that those around us are meant to learn. Whether it’s acceptance, compassion, empathy, whatever.
We’re in Soul School and the path our life takes is set out for us before we draw our first breath. And we know all about it until poof! Our memory is wiped clean so we can live it out.
It’s smart to ask ourselves what we can learn from our situation, no matter what it is.
4. People can be stupid, mean, rude, crazy–fill in the blank.
That lesson again–theirs, ours, whichever.
5. But it doesn’t matter if they are. It has nothing to do with you.
Their craziness ain’t ours to own, so let’s not own it.
6. No one is perfect, not me, not you.
So be gentle with yourself. It’s all about the lesson, anyway.
What would you add to this list of lessons?