How to be good to yourself even in tough times

December 6, 2017

self-loveThere’s been so much upset and trauma since the election that I think it’s time we’re all good to ourselves. Had a little self love.

And here’s how:

Wrap your arms around yourself in a great big hug of self love.

Stroke your dog or cat. Take them for a long walk in the fall leaves.

Buy something special just for you. A lipstick. A blouse. Shoes! Fun socks.

For sure, treat yourself to some beautiful flowers.

Take a nap.

Write poetry. Yes, even if it’s bad.

Play with makeup.

Steal time for yourself.

Eat some good chocolate.

Watch escapist TV.

Go to a movie.

Get a massage–some of the best are discount massages done by students at local massage schools. That’s right!

Same with hair and makeup: call your local cosmetology school and see if their practice rates are affordable.

Watch the sun rise. Or watch it set, if you’re not an early bird.

Get out a coloring book and color a little every day.

Buy a fashion and beauty magazine and page through it. Or House Beautiful. Sunset. Home and Gardens.

Play music loud.

Drink something sparkly.

Celebrate every little thing.

Don’t forget to have fun.

Life is short.

Do the good stuff.

You’ll never regret it.

If you know someone who could use a little love, visit A Healing Spirit and gift them with healing affirmations, a pretty mala bracelet or something else to brighten their day. The sale extended so prices are lower than they’ll ever be. Now’s the time.









29 comments on “How to be good to yourself even in tough times
  1. Sapana V says:

    From past few days, I am facing a tough time. These tips are very helpful in releasing the stress. I feel motivated now.

  2. Stacie says:

    I love this so much. We have to remember that in the toughest times, we need to take the best care of ourselves. It’s too easy to spiral into a dark place.

  3. Vera Sweeney says:

    It’s so important to take care of ourselves! Not only for us, but for our loved ones as well. I could go for a movie and some chocolate!

  4. Donna Tagliaferri says:

    Today is Day 6 of light the world and it is the day to forgive or ask forgiveness.thank you for reminding me to do something wonderful also

  5. These ideas are for me and everyone else who puts everything before themselves. We need to enjoy our lives and enjoy it more like treating ourselves more.

  6. Christie says:

    As parents, we tend to put the well-being of our family before our own. I totally agree with this post! So many “me time” activities to choose from to get recharged!

  7. Mitch says:

    This is a great reminder! We are having tough times in our home and I try to remember to do something nice for myself to help with the stresses. It is not easy!

  8. Marcie W. says:

    Excellent reminder and especially needed after these hectic last few weeks! I think I will arrange some time for myself soon, and incorporate a few of your suggestions.

  9. Sarah Bailey says:

    These are some lovely ideas, I often find myself stroking the dog when I’m not feeling so good, it is very calming and grounding.

  10. Heather says:

    It was a hectic year, so I decided 2018 was going to be about me. I need to use your list to make a weekly check list. I may not be able to do all of them each week, but I can definitely do one each day.

  11. Pam says:

    I have been wanting to get a massage soon. I haven’t thought of getting one from a massage student.

  12. I think this is a good reminder that we should shower ourselves with love as much as we do with our family and friends. Especially this season! These are awesome suggestions on how to do that.

  13. Claudia K says:

    Self care is so important. One of my favorite things to do is getting a massage. It helps me relax and release tension and stress. I always feel so good after I get a massage.

  14. Thank you! I really needed this. With so many coming forward about the abuse they have experienced, I am just outraged everyday. I cannot believe so many have been subjected to this abuse, and I am even more outraged that our president has been accused of the same kind of abuses but was still elected. Sometimes we have to step away and love ourselves. I think I need some chocolate cake and a nap!

  15. Sara Welch says:

    This is a really nice reminder. We deserve our time to be taken care of; it is how we stat on track!

  16. Thank you for this. During the holidays things can get out of hand in my family. Taking care of myself is often left to the wayside.

  17. Annemarie LeBlanc says:

    I do make time for myself but I feel it is not enough. Though my children are all grown, I still have that mom-guilt feeling when I am not home. Thanks for this great reminder. I think there are some self-love activities there that I can do at home. 🙂

  18. Chei Pangan says:

    I always have a tough time in my life but i dont forget to give some love for myself. And this tips are more helpful for ease more my stress.

  19. Amy Desrosiers says:

    I have not been practicing self care for myself these days. I really need to because I matter too!

  20. These are definitely some great ways to love yourself. When I’m having a hard time, I like to pick myself up by going and getting pampered – either getting my hair done or pedicure and manicure.

  21. Kiwi says:

    These are great tips for people greiving or going through something.I also think taking a nap is helpful to recharge getting sleep or just a nap can adjust your emotions.

  22. I love all your suggestions Carol. We really need to always be mindful to take care of ourselves. I never buy flowers for myself but I think that would be a beautiful treat and of course who doesn’t like a massage!

  23. All such super good tips. I particularly adhere to “Get a massage.” My favorite way to relax.

  24. My good friend Alison said the same thing ‘Wrap your arms around yourself in a great big hug of self love’ when I was feeling down and do you know what? It completely worked. Interacting with animals helps me too x

  25. Jennifer says:

    Sadly, so few of us think to put our needs first. So important to fuel our fires though or we won’t be able to be there for others.

  26. Janet says:

    This helped me so much. I felt like I didn’t love myself enough and started to find love in a person who could not love me as much as the love that I gave. I cried after watching this cause I didn’t love myself enough to give myself the love that I deserve and had to settle for something less. I tend to please people even though I don’t like it, so now I’m not afraid to say the word “no” .Thank you so much!

  27. RVNeed says:

    To all those facing hardships, I just wanna say we’re all in this together and we’re all gonna come out victorious and happy, together. thanks for sharing

  28. ToolAim says:

    I really needed this, this week hasn’t been easy on me and I haven’t been easy on myself in the right way. I think a lot of times we just forget how to love ourselves while making sure to move to the direction we want to.

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