Smaller is not always better

August 21, 2014



There are some times bigger is just better. Smaller is not always better. Regardless of what some want to believe.

Phone_Jan_cal_examplePhone calendar.

There was a day (when I worked) when I kept my calendar synched to my smartphone. But here’s the honest truth: I always kept a month-at-a-glance hard copy calendar because I often had to see an entire month’s events. Have you ever tried to do that on a tiny phone?

I didn’t think so. Now, I don’t use the calendar on my phone at all. It’s a pain in the ass to enter events and I can keep a monthly datebook by hand far more easily. One that I can actually read.

Yes, I live in Silicon Valley. Yes I had a career in tech. Yes, I love technology.

No, I will never again use the calendar on my phone to keep my events straight.

I’d have to be pretty desperate to watch a movie or TV show on my phone. As far as video is concerned, bigger is the only way to go.

Unless you are bored out of your gourd and have no access to a normal-sized screen.

Which today is AT LEAST 42 inches if not bigger.

Yes, bigger is better when it comes to video.

I just don’t think a small brain is all that.

Even though in my youth I did spend time with a small brain who had a big, beautiful body.

What can I say? I was young and callow. I wouldn’t do it now.

A brain is required now.

And related to brains:

You definitely want to look at this.

You definitely want to look at this.


Look, I’m terribly sorry if yours is small, because bigger is pretty much better. Unless it’s too big, in which case it might not be. But yeah, in general, bigger is better. Sorry.


These are hot girls.

These are hot girls.


Men or women that are skin and bone are just unattractive. Give me a big girl or guy any damn day. Aesthetically? More my thing.

It’s no secret that I have always liked my men big and brawny and that I spend most of the time at the gym watching my husband’s shoulders and back, some my favorite body parts. I will say no more, except to hint that my other rules apply here, too.

It’s true that I didn’t always appreciate the endowment that I was given but now that I realize how much money women invest in having breasts even larger than mine, I consider them an asset. Literally.

So those were just a few of the ways in which I believe bigger is better.ย  Smaller? Not so much.

Your thoughts on this?

44 comments on “Smaller is not always better
  1. “Small” has never been in my personal set of traits, either. Glad to say.

  2. This post made me giggle. As I age and get “bigger” I am thinking there is truth in bigger is better. Thanks for the enlightening post. ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. penpen says:

    I’m with you on the iPhone calendar and watching video on an itty bitty smart phone screen. At the risk of taking the big-is-better into too profound a realm, bigger circles of friends/acquaintances is better, esp as we move through midlife and beyond. nothing worse than letting our social circles shrink to the size of a smart phone.

  4. So looks like I need to move to Denmark! Thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. You best blog ever, bringing attention to the fact that we’ve been focusing on the wrong thing all along. We try to fit into smaller things, and maybe even play it “small” in our lives everyday. Ouch! What if we were to change the size tags from 8, 10, and 12 to Big, Better and Best? Now that could start a whole new trend of fashion. Thanks again Carol Cassara for your brilliance!

  6. Great post. Definitely agree with smaller isn’t better as I was trying to read the instructions on a bottle today. White tiny printing on a see through bottle with like purple liquid.

  7. Ha ha! I’m so with you! Bigger screens and bigger print, for sure. And, yes, it would be great if everyone celebrated bigger bodies!

  8. Well I am small and always have been and my self esteem is low low low…….Wonder why?

  9. Denmark, eh? Who’d have thought it. I wonder how easy it is to emigrate?! glad to have found your post on UBC ๐Ÿ˜€ Thanks for the laugh ๐Ÿ˜€

  10. Barbara says:

    Smiling all the way through this – big smile.

  11. Candess says:

    Such a fun blog! I love the style of it and it has motivated me. I was going to write my blog this morning about the show Dating Naked and looking at myself in the mirror naked and chickened out. What an inspiration you have been!

  12. Ellen Dolgen says:

    Thanks for the morning laugh! Such a fun blog.

  13. I’m so lucky my man is big and brawny and apparently from Denmark. ..happy woman here celebrating my 23rd wedding anniversary today! Hitting Charleston tomorrow for a romantic getaway where both will be appreciated!

  14. Donna DeVane says:

    I like a bigger better life. Everything else is just a “thang”. Go for the really big life, filled with all the laughter and joy you can muster.

  15. Lana says:

    BIG fan of bigger is better over here! This is why you’re such an amazing writer – you made some very good, important points – while making us laugh. Thank you!

  16. Janie Emaus says:

    Too funny! I agree. Smaller is not always better.

  17. WendysHat says:

    Hahaha! This is funny but kind of true! Love it!

  18. Helene Cohen Bludman says:

    In complete agreement about the iPhone calendar. It just isn’t working for me. I’m also jumping on the “bigger is better” bandwagon — great to be accepting of the inevitable!

  19. Carol Graham says:

    Entertaining as expected, Carol. Thanks for the smiles. I have to disagree on two points. One – I have always been attracted to the big and brawny but married (42 years ago) one who is neither. When it came down to it, I realized that most of the big and brawny guys I knew then and have met since, usually have an attitude to match. This was a major turn-off. Of course, this isn’t always true but it was in my world. Give me a strong, self-assured, gentle man who does not need to push his weight around.

    Two – Never had boobs until menopause and now I would give an awful lot to NOT have them. Shoulder pain, back pain and having to buy tops that are too big everywhere else to accommodate them — hate it.

    It is always s much fun to hear the different opinions of your comments – thank you.

  20. Pat says:

    Too funny. Where do the Frenchmen rate on the size scale? ha

  21. This post made me giggle. ๐Ÿ™‚

    Bigger can certainly be better in many ways. I have to agree with you there.

  22. Lux says:

    and so i try so hard to gain weight ๐Ÿ˜€

  23. Bouncin Barb says:

    Loved this post Carol. As a BBW with a “nice rack” as I’ve been told, I think skin and bones is so unattractive. I tuck my towel under the boobs…it ain’t going nowhere at 53!! LOL

  24. Haralee says:

    Some things are great big no doubt!

  25. I love your confidence in this piece, so I’m going with big ego’s. That’s right, after years of playing small I think I’m going big. You’ve inspired me. ๐Ÿ™‚

  26. Jay Lickus says:


    Insightful, yet esoterically funny stuff.
    I don’t think I am sailing into any new territory here but I am going to go out on a limb and say that all men like things bigger…Bigger phones, Bigger cars (or bigger engines), bigger breasts, bigger TV’s and yes……..wait for it…………bigger penises. Even us men from Denmark (actually Lithuania) want things bigger than we have them now. Everything. Just saying………………..

  27. Jay Lickus says:

    Just noticed that I’m the only other guy to have commented here and we both talked about penis size. Is that wrong?

  28. Becky Blades says:

    As a girl with size 11 feet and a body in proportion, I’ve been on Team Big for a long time. Thanks for the shout out for all things ample.

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