The day she made me smile, then think

August 31, 2021


On the phone with bestie this morning:

“You saved my life during this Covid thing,” she said. “You know that, right?”

“How do you mean?” I asked, with a smile she couldn’t see because we weren’t on a video call.

“You pushed me when I really needed it, which I like,” she said. “Well, actually I don’t like it, but it saved my life during Covid.”

I burst out laughing at the wry truth of it.

How many times have we pushed someone who really didn’t want to be pushed? It’s usually a recipe for disaster, to be honest.

But when you really know someone, and there’s mutual love and respect, then a push that you know they need can be just the right thing.

Can’t say that it’s always the right thing, and don’t I know it. But I love that I made this contribution to her life at a time when it’s so important to be helpful. So of course, I had to smile.

When I’m pushed, I usually push back at first, because, well, that’s my way. Her way, too. But it’s also my way to back up and think about it. Her way, too.

We’re more alike than different, although we’re really different. 😉 And maybe that’s why I wrote “50 Ways I Love His Mother” about her. It appeared in one of the Chicken Soup for the Soul anthologies and I’ve got it right here on my website. I think you might enjoy it! Find it HERE.
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4 comments on “The day she made me smile, then think
  1. As you said, pushing others can go either way, but if you’re passionate about what you’re trying to get across, it’s worth the try. Of course there are some relationships that can withstand a push and others that can’t.

  2. Diane says:

    I don’t think ANY of us likes that dreaded push. But we all need it! And (afterward) are grateful to the friend who cared enough to give it!

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