Earlier in my life, when I’d met grief only briefly and it wasn’t the intimate friend it is now, I tripped over myself with a grieving loved one.
He’d lost his teenage daughter in a horrible accident. And while he grieved heavily at the time, after the memorial service he never mentioned her. To anyone. Since we lived together, this was something I knew.
Three years on, in a quiet moment, I said, “You never mention, L…do you ever think about her?”
I know. Tone deaf, right? Like I said, at the time, I hardly knew grief and certainly had no familiarity with with quiet grief.
So when he responded with tears I was taken aback. Those tears? They were perfectly normal. Still waters run deep.
That scene came to mind when I read this beautiful excerpt from Susan Frybort’s life-affirming book, Open Passages/Doors and Windows to the Soul :
Sometimes the silent ones shed quiet tears. For those who carry the sadness of loss after weeks, months, even years have passed: Time will go forward, yet because you have loved so deeply, the sorrow you feel remains heavy. Allow the space for grief to stretch out its beauty and sign out its pain…to be cherished in remembrance as part of love’s story.
I can’t add anything to these profound words except to highly recommend her book, which is a collection of her reflections on life’s milestones and transformations. Just beautiful. I know many of you enjoy gentle and inspirational reading. This would be a book to purchase and keep on the beside table for inspiration or comfort. See the affiliate link above.
If you or someone you love is grieving, please consider our resources at A Healing Spirit.