Surviving the holidays

December 13, 2016

surviving-the-holidaysHaving read all your posts about family gatherings during which tensions ran high, I realize it’s time to revive last year’s post about surviving family and friends for the holidays.

Ah, last year. When maybe we fought with our relatives about the little things.

Boy, have things changed.

Anyway, this is still good advice for surviving the holidays and many readers implemented the suggestions with great results.

It’s certainly worth a try. So come on over HERE and learn how to survive the holidays with your sanity intact.

And by the way, if your family does not invite your same-sex spouse or significant other to celebrate with the family? Don’t go. Have your own celebration with like-minded friends and visit your family some other time. Don’t buy into the guilt and certainly do not buy into the idea that blood family is the only family. Because for me, well, chosen family has always been FAR superior. And I do mean FAR.

Not that we don’t have our squabbles.  But if you have a meaningful partnership and that person is not invited? You don’t have a problem. Your family does.

Don’t make it yours.

Sending love and best wishes for getting through this stressful season. I hope my tips help you.

6 comments on “Surviving the holidays
  1. Great advice, Carol. The holidays are for making memorable happy holidays. If your family can’t give you that, do your own happy thing.

    Happy Holidays!


  2. Ah, yes, the holidays. They’ve certainly changed over the years and sometimes I wish I could go to an island instead. But I do love seeing my parents, and since Dad will be 89 on Christmas Day that is something to celebrate!

  3. For so many, it will be tough this year, won’t it? Thanks for helping many survive it!

  4. Diane says:

    I saved this article last year to share with my kids. Probably something I need to revisit every year! Thank you!

  5. Perfect timing because I just came from Target, where this elderly woman turned to me in the gift card aisle and whispered, “I can’t wait for the holidays to be over.” I laughed, told her I understood and wished her happy ones!

  6. sue says:

    Happy holidays Carol. This time of year is what we make it – we can enjoy it or we can succumb to the pressures. I prefer the first option.

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